About ready to reluctantly throw in the towe!

Thank-you for being so honest with me. So many people have this misconception that if you are a housewife/stay at home parent, that you have it so easy! Ha! Yes, it was a joint decision made by both my husband and myself but whenever he is in a bad mood about finances, of of a sudden it becomes MY decision to just stay home. People don't seem to realize that the person who stays at home has a 24/7 responsibility. Even on the weekends I have to do everything. No vacation time or Christmas bonuses either. Don't get me wrong, I love having the luxury of being there when my kids get up as well as when they come home from school. I have made sacrifices too though. I don't get to have that much adult interaction or have my boss pat me on the back for a job well done. I guess I was living in a fantasy world when I expected my husband to just appreciate me even a little. I am slowly learning to rely on ME to keep my self esteem intact!. Thanks again!

I am sorry to hear about it,but I guess be grateful you see "signs" so early on.I too was a stay at home parent for 6 years and NEVER got any respect for the decision we both made.I have been seperated for almost a year due to the constant fighting.My advice to you or anyone else planning on giving up any finacial independance DO NOT do it.If he is already holding it against you its only gonna get worse.So my advice is get a job,does not matter if its 10 hours a week or even less.Once you start believing his comments about you,and it will happen there is REAL trouble.If you have to fight for your self respect you will never get it.