This is my first Valentines Day alone

Going out to a bar isn't always the answer.  I found that staying in ordering pizza, inviting friends over, and watching a movie, or just talking about guy/girl stuff is the best way to over come most disappointments in life.  The worst possible thing you could ever do is to just sit around an dwell on the past or the "What ifs".  Decide to make your LIFE CHANGE to better your own self image.  Stop worrying about what other people think.  I like Sheri's response.  Heck I'm even a guy and I would love to go to an all day spa and get a body massage, have my hair waxed off my back (not that it's all that disgusting or bad) just for something to do for myself, even have my eyebrows trimmed, finger nail cuiticals done, so forth and so on.  Go enjoy any and all HOLIDAYS with FAMILY & FRIENDS.  Don't sit around and be a BUMP ON A LOG, you will accomplish nothing by doing that.

"...do tell..." - Vicki, you have been very caught up and busy with your life to come back here and visit with us. Good for you! Now, you need to take a moment and clue us in on what you finally did do with yourself on this particular Valentine's Day; and, once you have told us all about this over a quart of ice cream, you will definitely feel so much better having shared with the rest of us. ;-p

So what did you end up doing for valentine's? tell me:)

Do tell: what did you do? How was it?

I know how you feel.  We separated in right before Thansgiving so it feels like that once you get by one holiday you have to deal with another.  I have two boys so I am trying to get into it for them.  My husband of course claims he does not feel well today and might not be able to see his kids.  Got to love it.  I am just going to make sure my kids know that they are loved today and look forward to next Valentines

I know how you feel.  We separated in right before Thansgiving so it feels like that once you get by one holiday you have to deal with another.  I have two boys so I am trying to get into it for them.  My husband of course claims he does not feel well today and might not be able to see his kids.  Got to love it.  I am just going to make sure my kids know that they are loved today and look forward to next Valentines

Take a couple of your close girlfriends out tomorrow evening or bake a your favorite dessert together and talk about girlie stuff. Go buy one thing you like so much and indulge and watch a funny movie with your girls:) Pick one of these if these are too many ideas.  YOU CAN DO IT:)

hi diamond!  thanks for posting here too.  all of these ideas are great...wish i could do them in one day. ......

Hi Vicki, i got my first comment today from you. Thank you. Well, Valentine's day or not just love yourself today. Like some of the other ladies said in the comments. Go get a full spa treatment. It is awesome. I got a full body massage, a seaweed wrap, a facial, pedicure, manicure and I felt like a million dollars. Afterwards, go get you some of your favorite chocolates or candies or flowers. Looking at some beautiful fresh flowers is relaxing. i used to work in a flower shop. I love flowers. Anyways, I'll try if you try. You can do it girl. What woman can't spend money:) Do it for you once in a while. Happy Valentine's day to you!

Have a party and invite others who may be alone. Your social life is very important right now. Have your friends over and play games or share war stories. Sooner or later, you'll find yourself laughing among friends, whether old or new.

Sorry Vicki - forgot to say, if I can do it, so can you -go out there and start meeting others - you will actually start to enjoy the day and forget some of the 'past' Valentine's Days. Go for it! It's better than being miserable!

I can identify with Mary I'm into getting out and about now but feel a bit apprehensive trying to meet other single people after so many years married. I find it difficult to just go and talk to people but after reading the 10 tips to survive Valentine's Day think I must be on the right track. I have found wearing a SHI symbol for single people helps me to be able to easily recognize who is 'single' and who isn't and just helps break the ice a bit for me which I felt was the hardest bit of meeting other people. The good part with theSHI pendant is I wear it to work and to the shops and find I'm talking to a few more people than perhaps I would have before. Maybe it's my new crutch. Hell, I don't care if it works!

The first Valentine's Day alone is one of those really tough things that don't immediately come to mind when you're dealing with everything else going on in a divorce - so when all the sudden you see the decorations and the cards, this sick sense of dread can set in, along with the mindset that you just need to get to - and through - the 14th. If motivated enough, you can plan something fun with single friends like going to spa (or a bar) or just plan out a peaceful night at home with some solid take out food and funny (not romantic!) films - funny like...caddyshack or superbad. Hallmark has convinced us it is a day to spend with a loved one other than ourselves...let's just focus on spending it with a loved one: ourselves, and do whatever it takes to show ourselves a little love: a gift, some fun, or just a break.

This is my first also. Divorce was finalized in November 2007. Yeah it's tough but it is just another day really. I was with him 24 years and it is lonely but at least I have my peace of mind. I think that is about the best gift you can get.

My first Valentines day divorced could have been horrible. I was miserable and kept replaying the entire divorce over and over and over again. How can you not? It's everywhere, on tv and the radio. You're surrounded. At the last minute I called up some friends and we all went out and ended up having one of the greatest nights in years.

Im in SuYin's camp. And I think many men feel the same way - that the holiday feels sort of manufactured. Call me a cynic - its ok! - but i think that its just another day... (Robert makes me laugh - i like the idea of caroling!)

Go to an all day spa.....and go All Day! Enjoy it. Splurge on those super fabulous treatments. Bring along some single friends and make it a yearly tradition.

Celebrating Valentines Day alone and divorced is better than celebrating it unhappily married.

Whatever you do, do not site at home alone. Go out with friends.

Was V-day special? To me it's just another day...eventhough I have someone. I've changed my ways - every day is special in this relationship. Not just because Hallmark and Godiva say so!

Oh c'mon Vicki! You were all about Christmas stuff to do, what makes this any different? Go door to door caroling. Don't know any Valentines carols? find your local mellow radio station, they'll share them with you. Don't want to sing those? Fine, decorate the house with Chippendale cherubs, pamper yourself: long bath lots of bubbles. Take care of YOU! That's what's important Vicki. This will be my first one alone too. It's also the same weekend MyUnwife told me she hated me and wanted a divorce. So I do feel your Valentines issue, but like I said, it's no different than Christmas, It's all about doing something special for you. And If anybody can do it, You, my merry elf friend are the one.