Another Group Question..

Going through a horrible divorce. I didn't want it, but she's done everything she can to make it difficult. It is what it is.

Today would have been our 11th anniversary. I'm much better than last year, since the divorce has been going on for a year and a half.

I get a text message from her today saying that her aunt died today. I've only met this person once, and she lives back east (we're in CO). Nothing about anniversary, but just that her aunt passed away today. She said that she is baking cupcakes with our son and trying to feel better.

Why tell me about it? On today, of all days? Why would I even care to hear about her? We're barely cordial with each other, and I've built a good wall around my emotions concerning her, and don't want her in my life other than a co-parent. Why the need to tell the STBX with whom you're having a horrible divorce?

I just don't understand.

by HurtInColorado 1139 Posts
Posted on 11/7/2009 9:10 PM

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Once upon a time she would have shared this with you. Perhaps out of habit she let you know. Try not to read too much into it, just appreciate the fact that she at least included you in her circle of contacts.

by Jamesalone 2771 Posts
Posted on 11/15/2009 3:33 AM

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She's probably a bitch, like Herelgo said.

by btrayed 28 Posts
Posted on 11/14/2009 11:32 PM

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She's probably a bitch, like Herelgo said.

by btrayed 28 Posts
Posted on 11/14/2009 11:32 PM

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Maybe she just wanted you to know since you used to be related. Chalk it up as noted and forget about it. You will drive yourself crazy trying to figure out an underlying reason for her letting you know. Maybe she doesn't have anyone else who could be sympathetic about her aunt and wanted some sympathy from you since you used to be married. Were they close before the aunt moved east? Who knows what logic lies behind her reason for emailing or texting you. When I learned that someone who was a good friend of ours years ago had passed I emailed my ex and told him. Thinking he might want to know. There was no other reason other than to tell him about our friend.

by melaine 425 Posts
Posted on 11/8/2009 12:42 PM

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Did you text her back? What did you say?

by lifeinpurgatory 1830 Posts
Posted on 11/8/2009 10:38 AM

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As long as you were still engaged first in trying to get her back, then fighting, she got a lot of attention from you. Now she doesn't and will do anything to involve you in her life again.
Then again, hereigo could be right in the second part!

by bluebird 1188 Posts
Posted on 11/8/2009 7:29 AM

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Maybe she just wanted to make contact, and the death of her Aunt was her excuse to do so.

Then again, HereIgo could have been right.

Whatever the reason was, don't try to understand it. Just acknowledge that it happened and move on.

by Kitty7470 2618 Posts
Posted on 11/7/2009 10:50 PM

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She may have forgotten ir was your 11th anniversary, or maybe she's just a bitch.

by HereIgo 756 Posts
Posted on 11/7/2009 9:29 PM

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