ex husband wants to go to therapy and try out marriage again, what should I do?

Let him go see the therapist and get whatever treatment he needs and see some results before investing any time. It sounds like he misses the crutch and wants some support, talk is cheap. If he is serious, he would have been getting help on his own, not as condition for you to take him back.

I have to agree with Kevinwo on this. Just take it slow. Date. Figure out what goal you could/would have together. What do you want out of the relationship. What does he want? I never read any of your other posts or recall them if I did, but was he hurt in the process as well?

See how well the two of you handle raising your daughter together. Is he a good father to her? Is he a decent provider? All of these things weigh onthe mind do take it slow.

I'm in agreement with the advice you've already been given.  Your caution about being hurt again is very wise.  I would have a long, serious discussion with yourself...make a pro/con list, if that helps.  Sometimes, we get involved in relationships that are very toxic...we want them and love the person, but they are unhealthy for us.  It sounds like that's the case with you.  Before you commit, ask yourself if this is what you truly want and if it's best for you.  Be brutally honest with yourself...has he promised you that he'd change before?  If he did, how long did the change last?  Did his actions match his words?

Beware that trap.  We sometimes have the blinders of love on and because we love them so much, we are desperate to believe what they say...but their actions will speak louder than their words...and we have to be careful of the repeating of past behaviors...they get better for a month or two, but fall back into old habits and you start the process of going through the whole cycle again.  There will come a point when you have to cut your losses and end the cycle.  I think you reached that point with the divorce...but only you know this relationship and only you can answer when enough is enough.  I wish you luck with all this.  Keep us posted!

Be sure this is what you want.  I say that because we all want to hear this from the person who left us, its a fantasy.  When you hear it you feel this sort of inital rush.  Be realistic something was broken and yes he is saying he will go to counceling which is  great.  You have been hurt, you both love each other which is natural you have been together for over 11 yrs.  Be sure he isn't just lonely.  Mine came back after just 4 months with the same type of speech then changed his mind.  I am afraid that once everything is said and done when I am fine and moving on that he will pop up after attempting  relationship with someone else.  You see loved him so I put up with alot of things someone else won't because they haven't invested the time in the relationship. 

So take a few days realize you are going to have to let everything from the past go.  You won't be able to bring it up because it will destroy what you are trying to build.  Will you be able to do that.  It will be hard and you have to realize that counceling may not work are you ready to take that chance again. 

I think its great he came back to you just be sure it sincear and that he is getting the help he needs for his drinking and drug use.  You might want to suggest he be in treatment for a certain time period before you even consider getting back together.

My mother always has told me, once you have walked way do not go backwards.  I believe in action, not words, he needs serious help, drinking and drugs...you and your baby deserve better.

I wish my wife would say what your ex said.  I would be the happiest guy on earth.  First of all, he MUST be on medication and be recieving all treatment available, otherwise he will be unstable.  Next, donot live together, or have sex.  You must remain separated so both of you can reflect and consider the reasonableness of a remarriage.  I think this is a wonderfull opportunity, as we learn from our mistakes and view them as experience. 

The way we handle our problems define who we are.  The difficulties you have faced, strengthen the mind as labour does the body.  Success isnot a result, but always a goal. 

I hope the both of you consider the possibility of remarriage.  You each have the luxury of knowing each others weaknesses and strong points.  If you can work on those weak areas, you will have a stronger union.  Last, NEVER bring up the past again, it is old and dead.  We personally cannot change the past, but we can change the way we view it.  You two have the opporunity to grow from your past, and that is such a strengthening force in your union.  We all need love, security and excitement to be happy.