How to keep going when you've been beat down so badly

Not sure what your health concerns are but here's what I did for a positive attitude:

1.   Actively build a support system that will help prop you up during the low times and help cheer you on in your journey to start over.   A great attorney, good therepist and support groups can work miracles for healing.   Support from family and friends are  also godsends.

2.   Get physically active.    Sometimes that means to the point of exhaustion.    It not only ensures restful, restorative sleep but helps renew your self confidence and attitude.   those endorphines are better than wiskey and the way you look in the mirror is just another outward sign that you are changes for the better.

3.   Look outside yourself.  Volunteer work will help you not only get in touch with the world around you but help remind you that things in your life could be a whole lot worse.   You have a lot to give as a person.   Give your worries and pain a break and reach out to others less fortunate than you.    The holidays are a great time to connect and give of yourself.      Feel the value you can offer by looking outside yourself.

These are suggestions that YOU must ACT on.   That means if you are truly open to starting from scratch you must take steps to move forward and truly begin over.

Humm- I like the new beginning sound! Good way of putting it!
You can put this under your lessons learned category. Move ahead- step by step. Be careful not to make the same mistake twice!
If you think about it- new beginning- woohoo! That is exciting!

dont look at it as "starting over".  sounds better if you make it "a new begining".  lay off the booze.  i once drank a 5th of kentucky tavern, triing to fight a anxiouty attack.  36 hours later i finally was able to sleep.  and was worthless the whole next day.  save the booze for happier times.  i still drink some beer but not much.   the whiskey has to stay away for a while.  just makes the blues worse.  last thing in the world you need while going threw depressing times is a depressant.  exercise helped me, and divorce care..  it was really hard going the first time.  but i am happy i did.  a few of us get together after class and go out for coffee and such now, aswell.  good people, good confersations, good info.  hang in there, you got alot of living to do yet.

HI ShyGuy -

I am a relationship counselor and divorce coach here on D360.

Tried to read you story, but not alot of information there.  I would like to help you, but have a couple of questions.

What happened to your health?
What is the situation with your bills?
Drinking is definately not the answer... 

Just because you are middle aged doesn't mean you can't start over. I did at 45.  Lots of us here did at that age and older.  It's never too late to begin to enjoy life again...  even with health issues...  even with bills.

Hope to hear from you.
Best -
Lisa