Divorce going as I predicted... Spaz!!!

So we had our preliminary hearing in Oct. Of course stbx wasn't there (supposedly working out of the country - left the Monday of the week of court), retained a local attorney (4) days prior to court. Stbx had months to prepare for this, he's had more than enough time off of work (a few months).

So the judge gave them an extension to produce financial declarations and discovery of financial records - 10 days.

Friday was 10 days. Monday my atty says he's waiting to hear back from stbx's atty. I emailed him back "why"? Not our responsibility to go behind them to get their paperwork in! My atty said it's a "rule"... I told him I'd like to get a better understanding of this "rule". Talked to my atty again today, he spoke to stbx's atty. Said that stbx "having email problems" "printers broke" all b.s. I told my lawyer he should have went to the court Monday morning and tell them the opposing side didn't submit as ordered. Am I wrong for telling him this? I mean if I got a ticket and didn't pay, I don't recall the law coming to my house to remind me to pay, or stroll in a week after the due date and just pay. Nope, had a bench warrant out for my ass, haha!

So my lawyer is going to fax something in, and the judge will fax a memo back to the lawyer with his ruling.

Does this sound right?

Thank you for your time.

by lifeinpurgatory 1830 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 7:05 PM

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when it comes to paying his loans, my ex starts with the 'my computer's boke' 'my email must not have gotten through' 'i've been so busy'

It's all crap, they're stalling.

Stay focused and good luck ((hugs))

by OddGirlOut 134 Posts
Posted on 11/6/2009 8:16 AM

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hang in there, its all hurry up and wait hurry up and wait. but it will all come together. the more crap he pulls, the more he will cut his own throat.

by oldfashionfool 113 Posts
Posted on 11/5/2009 5:53 PM

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Oh for hell's sake Byron what a rediculous statement.

The "system" has nothing to do with it - it isn't the "system" out for your flesh - it's your stbx's...

if there weren't so many of you out there divorcing instead of truly working on your marriages and getting through your problems instead of throwing up your hands and saying "I quit" the court system wouldn't be so clogged. For some people, divorce is the best option, for others it's merely a cop out...either way though, it's the people divorcing that cause the "system" to have to work the way it does.

How, exactly, is her attorney "exacting" any amount of flesh by AVOIDING the courts for a trivial matter that if heard by a judge would have an unproductive outcome? These aren't games Byron, these are proven methods of positive outcome.

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 9:46 PM

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LIP The games they play in the system at this time is incredible.They all know how vunerable we are and the system just wants to exact another pound of flesh.What is sad this is the only time most people encounter the legal system.Then they wonder why people become bitter it is a real travesty.

by Byron 242 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 9:19 PM

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Yes - it's typical - you two just hit the court process, so there is "professional courtesy" that is extended until there is reason to truly believe there is stalling or other shenanigans going on. Yes it's 10 days, but at 12:01am on the 11th day attorneys aren't rushing to cause contention. It isn't the best way to start out in front of a judge...it could actually make you look bad in the long run to be honest.

Yes, your ex is probably spoon feeding his attorney a whole load of bull, even though you know him, you can't prove it...you have to let him show his colors to the court.

All a judge will do is give him more time anyway...it takes a good three of four refusals to comply before a judge will do something to force the issue.

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 7:16 PM

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