My life, 3 years since i took him back after he cheated

Get an attorney, get possesion of the house until the sale goes through, and get rid of this SOB!

I am planning to get a divorce but untill we have the house ready to go on the market, we will have to live in the same space.  I told him we will never have sex again and that will never change.  I don't think he believes me, but then he has always been somewhat delusional.  Our youngest son and my elderly mother live here too, so I keep my distance from him and try to maintain a peaceful atmosphere.  I missed the boat when women were getting "liberated" and have been a stay at home wife for all of my marriage.  I have no marketable skills, so supporting myself  would be tricky to say the least.  I used to be afraid of going it alone but now I will do what ever it takes to get out of this marriage.  Thank you all for replying, even though I know what has to be done it helps to hear others say it too.

I look back in hindsight and say, "Why didn't I leave 20 yrs ago when I found open condom packets in his coat pocket?  Or when I ended up in the hospital 13 yrs ago with pelvic pain so bad I doubled over and collapsed.  I had PID, but told the doc he must be wrong, my husband would never cheat on me.  I finally left when I was diagnosed with chlamydia, after being faithful to this one man for over twenty years.  And his response, "You must have had it all this time and it only showed up now." 

Leave, leave now, and don't look back.  We all gave second, third, and fourth chances.  It's time you quit giving him another chance and give yourself another chance.

RUN don't walk away from this man.

Hi Kalee -

I am a relationship counselor and divorce coach here on D360. 

I am saddened that you have contracted an STD that will not go away from your husband.  I am aware from your post that you have serious financial issues, can't sell your home due to the down market, and are depressed. 

The overwhelming  feelings you have are compounded by the disappointment you feel in your marriage.  You need help.  If you have health insurance I strongly suggest you find a psychiatrist who can help you by prescribing an anti-depressant.  Some of them take a month or two to have their full effect, but they can make a tremendous difference in how you feel day to day.  You need to be able to function and take care of yourself if you are to get through this difficult time. 

Please take this first step.

Best -
Lisa

i am no financial advisor, but staying with someone who has done you this wrong, for financial reasons ???  no.  i would rather go bankrupt.  money problems are always temperary and can be fixed.  your trust in him cannot.  god bless you for triing.  but run, girl run.  your life can be as good as what ever you decide to make it be.... i wish you the best.  gl

leave. leave NOW. nothing but NOTHING will ever be as bad as what you are living now.

(experience talking)