WHAT 2 DO WHAT 2 DO!!!!!

im young married to a marine and pregnant with my 1st. me n hubby married aug 08 wk b4 he left 4 iraq, ad when he came back i foud out that while in iraq he was talking to umerous other females saying how he was going to hook up with them whe he got bck 2 the states. not only that but messages to 1 particular ex telling her how much he loves her and how he was just settling for me. turns out he was doing this the whole time since b4 we even got married!!! And the real funny part folks (well not really) is that the same day i found out all this is the same day i found out i was pregnant too. aint life grand :x my problem now is that i forgave him n decided to work things out cus of course he cried begged n pleaded for me to stay and endlessly said sorry how he didnt mean it and it was all just talk so i took his word for it and decided for my marriage sake i would just try and make things work. well in the last months he has 1 continuosly talked to certain females that he gave me his word that he would never talk to again because they were the particular females that he was talking to before and 2 just constantly lied and try 2 deny everything. bottom line there is so much more to my story that i could keep goin on and on but im sure u guys r tired of readig by now but i just dont know what to do anymore. i am at my end right now. my baby is due in dec and i just dont have the strength or energy anymore to deal with this!!!! it is LITERALLY makin me sick people. i want to work things out and hope and have faith that he is the good person i THOUGHT he was but what do you do when that trust is no longer there?? how do you move on when everytime u do see a little glimmer of hope something or some1 comes and takes it all away pushing you back to square 1. if there is anyone out there who thinks they could help i would appreciate someone to talk to now & then. so comment message even email (totoblossom@yahoo.com)i'll take all the advice i can get right now!!!!!

by totoblossom 1 Post
Posted on 11/3/2009 3:05 PM

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RUN!!

by ShortAndSweet1966 12 Posts
Posted on 11/7/2009 1:27 PM

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From your story I see my history. I know its much easier said than done but honey RUN, don't walk out of this mans life! Once he has lied, apologized and continued his inappropriate relationships it will likely never end. In my case it started the exact same way, he got caught he cried and apologized I forgave. Now after 15 yrs and 4 kids I'm still here dealing with the same BS when I ran the 1st time with 1 kid I shouldve stayed away then but I had the false hope and belief that love could conquer all. My advice to you would be to pray and pray hard for guidance on how to deal with your husband and to really determine if this is something you're willing to deal with.... I will keep you in my prayers and hope you find what is best for you.

by lonley 16 Posts
Posted on 11/3/2009 8:17 PM

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by lonley 16 Posts
Posted on 11/3/2009 7:32 PM

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#1 - we never get tired of reading - if you have something on your mind, sweetie, write a book on here if you need to. It's what we are here for.

He isn't taking responsibiliy for his actions - and you aren't holding him truly accountable for it either - if you want to give him one last chance then you tell him it is marriage counseling and he better straighten up or he's looking at divorce and child support for the next 18+ years and dealing with a VERY angry woman for those 18+ years as well.

Has he even actually seen you ANGRY or just crying and sad?

It could very well be that you married a dog - and although he may not actually follow through on his flirting - he is NOT acting like a man in a committed relationship, you didn't sign up for marriage to a mutt...and he needs to know you aren't raising a child with one.

You don't say what state you are in - you may even want to consider filing for legal separation to let him know just how serious you are. (you don't say what state you are in so I can't advise you if legal separation is recognized there or not) and tell him that you will only consider dropping it if you see real changes (and the marital counseling)

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 11/3/2009 4:39 PM

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