Figured out why I am stuck!!!

OMG!!! It has been one year exactly since I returned to my home to try and salvage what was left of my disastrous relationship with my ex (if there was one). Boy have I come a long way. Whats even more amazing is I think I am discovering why I am having such a hard time letting go...because he hasn't let go. I am realizing this through his actions/words. For the past year, he has held on, periodically doing things that keep me hoping, thinking, wishing and praying. Granted it was my choice to hope, wish, pray, and think about his words. But as this year has passed I have gotten stronger. I have learned to make decisions based on what I want, and am creating a life for Me and my Children. With this newfound freedom, I am slowly trying to move on and as of late have really been making some huge strides that have even left me suprised and puzzled. Where has this confident, take no prisoners person been hiding?!?

Recently, I have learned that I have been a pushover when it comes to my ex. I have allowed him to do things that anyone in their right mind would have never allowed. I have begun to put my foot down and whats suprising me is that he doesn't like it. For someone that has already moved on  I would think anything I say or do would not get their underwear in a bunch. Excuse me for finally after a year wanting you to remove your items and car from my garage so I can move forward! Excuse me for giving you a ultimatum because you had a YEAR and have yet to do anything about moving the rest of your crap! I refuse to be taken advantage of any longer and will stand up for myself! Interesting how he doesn't want me to move on. Its clear through his actions and words. It has been THIS that has kept me stuck all this time. It is a wonderful feeling to figure this out!!!