Wedding ring

Interesting no men have responded, eh? Oh, well.

I didn't like taking mine off, because to me it meant things were really "done". And that hurt.

I replaced it with a ring I had bought for my right hand before I married the STBX. The man's equivalent to something you ladies might call a "cocktail ring". Not too flashy, but noticeable.

Having grown a bit in girth since I last wore it (STBX wouldn't let me because I was married to someone else when I bought it, and it might remind me of her, after all!), I didn't even have to have it resized to fit on my left hand, so there it went.

To me, it symbolizes being "married to me" for a while. And that is a whole lot nicer than...well...you know.

Take care.

I always knew where I had kept my engagement ring the last 16 months, but the other night I found the band.  I put the 2 together in the box and cried my eyes out.  I do miss it but have to agree that it meant commitment..a commitment that is no longer honored.  I took a picture of it and almost sent it to my STBX but then realized that he wouldn't care anyway.  Be strong!!!

The day my ex said "I feel nothing for you at all," I took mine off. I missed having it on there, kind of like an old friend. I kept reaching to touch it only to be devastated when I felt nothing. Then my best friend gave me a heart shaped ring and told me to wear it on that finger. She said every time i felt it, I'd realize that I was loved. It has helped tremendously. Maybe you could replace yours with something that will give you a more positive vibe? Best wishes.

It made me feel like I had been chosen somehow, that I was part of a group of people whom I admired—married people. It was something I always aspired to, since I was very young.

I have been struggling with the idea of taking off my rings too.  Unfortunately, over the past 18 years I have developed arthritis and my knuckle is swollen so the rings won't come off anyway right now!  But I am not ready yet...it's only been four months since I discovered my husband's affair and we haven't filed or anything yet.  I know that it's over but I can't bear the thought of the rings no longer being there.  So I have been looking at designing a ring to take the place with all four of my girls' birthstones as well as some diamonds.  I think that once the new ring is completed, I can have the wedding rings cut off and replace them immediately with the new ring that symbolizes the true and lasting meaning of my life which is my daughters. 

As for my husband's ring - he handed it to me on his way out the door the last time he came back from Europe.  I guess I'll put his ring and mine in a box, seal it up and put it away.  That's kind of what he has done to me and our family.

I miss the symbolism, but I don't miss the ring.  I took it off as soon as I found out he was cheating.  I gave it to my daughter (her birthstone is diamond), and she plans to have it made into a necklace someday.  What hurt me the most was finding his discarded in a drawer after he left.  I felt a little like that ring--unloved, unwanted, and never appreciated for my value. 

However, I can tell you that although I know I'm not completely over Mr. X, I am considerably better and adjusting positively to my single state.  I know that whatever is in store for me in this life or whatever I deserve in life, it will be far better without him, as a negative force in my life, than it ever was with him.

I do miss it for it was apart of me for 24 years.  I carry mine in my wallet.  Why, I don't really know, but,  do I want some day to take the diamond out  and have a necklace made for my daughter.  I want her to know she was our first miracle..the fulfillment of young love. We failed, not me or him, we failed.  I also think about having the wedding bands molded into a charm for my son to wear around his neck. For they were the beginning....or have two charms made for me to wear to realize how far I have come..when I reach that point..haven't yet..until then I carry them in my wallet.  I know the pain you are going thru and take it slow.  What you are feeling is real..but this too shall pass...I believe that... for you give me strength..post to you later for today was bad. Take care.  HUGS!!

I think that ring holds a place dear in our hearts for all we hoped for our life at the time.   It's nostalgic and also a symbol of eternal love.   A love that we never thought in our wildest dreams would die.  

That's a hard dream to die even if the partner is long gone.  

I replaced my ring with a small tattoo around that finger that symbolizes eternal love.  I am a romantic and so now when I remarry my new ring will be placed there and add to that feeling of eternal love.   But whether a ring is there or not I know my heart is open always to eternal love.

Maybe you can take the stones out and have it made to a pretty cocktail ring or a nice necklace and still wear it.

I had a hard time taking mine off. Seems I would put it on and take it off..that went on for a while.
I would say it does symbolize commitment- for you and I. It is a hard thing for us to let go!
You will get used to it..Hang in there!
BTW- I am getting ready to SELL mine to help pay for the new pup I am getting..haha..Get a divorce and buy a dog..funny little picture huh?