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Worried

I have some serious health issues and while I have been fighting to keep my kidneys functioning in and out of the hospital doing cemo therpy and everything else I find out that my husband of 28 years is having an affair and is now planning on leaving me to move in with her. We have just built a new home (for our retirement ha! ha!) and he said he would pay all my bills and living expenses for 2 years. I am unable to work and have been on social security disability since 1994. With an income of only $900 a month. If he leaves I will no longer have medical insurance as well. In the state of Ohio how will that factor in when we file for divorce. Do I have any rights at all just because some women decided to go after my husband. I'm so scared! I don't know what to do. Can he be ordered to pay for the home we built, pay alimony, supply me with health insurance or anything? He said he won't have to do anything he is just offering out of the kindness of his heart and he feels a little guilty about the affair.

by kissyface   7 Posts 
Posted on 1/21/2008 3:38 PM
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Even though you may not want to, you can apply for Illinois medicaid to help with your medical expenses. Plus, any court with your case would hit your husband up with the max available for spousal support due to your condition. It will be WAY more than he is offering. But I agree with "S". You need to contact an attorney ASAP. There should also be programs for people who fall below the Federal Poverty level (which is sounds like you do) that can aid with legal expenses/dealings. My heart goes out to you. Good luck.
by Unlucky_n_love   17 Posts
Posted on 1/27/2008 3:44 PM
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You have to contact a DISABILITY DIVORCE ATTORNEY. In IL, you would have a lot of help being disabled. Call Mr. Perry Smith, 847-623-2200, he is supposed to be a good Disability Divorce Attorney, here in IL. I'm sure if you call him, he would be able to reccomend a number in Ohio to call. You never know, he may know someone there also. My god, take care. My husband dosen't understand my biggest fear, is not having medical insurance ! When I turn 65, that's about what I'm getting also. You know, your in the same boat as I am. If we got 3 or 4 of us together, we could afford a descent place to live. AND, Your husband is full of shit. According to my attorney, you should be eligable for permenant care!!! I have the top firm in my area..My next door neighbor is also an attorney. If you need more info, I can ask them. She isn't representing either one of us. She said, it's due to conflict of interest, she likes us both. Anyways, I don't mind helping you at all. You can always ask ! If I can't do something, I'll just tell you, ok. S Good night sweetie !!
by S   25 Posts
Posted on 1/24/2008 11:55 PM
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You are entitled to half of everything usually. I would contact an attorney, you need someone to look after your best interest. He might be nice now but when it comes to splitting the money believe me he will change.
by Bea4   406 Posts
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