should I go?

My husband and I have been married 2 years,1 baby. He lied about finances b/4 we got married, provided a lavish lifestyle, even got married on a cruise. Come to find out, he had an inheritance that he was spending up trying to get me and partying and taking trips w/friends my whole pregnancy. He almost missed the baby being born, came to the hospital high off cocaine(which I did not know he did, says he only did it b/c he was up all night driving home from out of town and needed to stay up) and he slept through my labor. The money ran out, or at least that's what he leads me to believe.Moved us to a new state where he owns a house, After 4 weeks I left to go back to my home town with the baby b/c he would not work. We reconciled after he moved here with us 1 year later. Still will not work, not much help with the baby, but does pay the rent with a check he still receives, but that's it pays for nothing else. Called me another woman's name and needs to go out of town to receive his check at a previous address every month. SHOULD I GO?

by Landa 11 Posts
Posted on 1/21/2008 12:55 PM

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he should go..... but take my advice, you need to document and secure all of yor assets.

by bassman 3 Posts
Posted on 2/1/2008 2:42 AM

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to cut to the chase-YES

by shelby 11 Posts
Posted on 1/22/2008 2:48 PM

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Wow.... I'm sorry to hear it is happening to you and your son. But If he keeps doing this, obviously it seems like he doesn't care too much about what he is doing to both of you. And you don't want to regret later in the years about, "I should of left along time ago." I understand that you love him, but sometimes you have to do whats best for you and your son even if it hurts.

by MV 2 Posts
Posted on 1/21/2008 8:45 PM

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It's much more than that going on, there is his lack of intimacy, lack of sex, he says he will not go to counseling b/c he does not have problem, and I wake up everyday with resentment b/c I go to work, take care of the baby, and come home and he has done nothing but watch tv. He does not even contribute to our son's care and expenses. He has bought him 3 pair of shoes since he was born, nothing else. All the burden falls on me for everything. My son loves him but his total lack of responsibility makes me so angry. I love him, but Ialso think I could get so mad at his sheer laziness that I could hurt him. Ihate his nochalant attitude when I am always worrying about how to make ends meet.

by Landa 11 Posts
Posted on 1/21/2008 1:24 PM

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wow - you got a lot going on! I think if you can work things out, you should try. Its about love in the end - i know that sounds niave, but i believe it! if you love him, try hard to make it work - see if he will talk with you and a pastor or someone - counselling works!

by jackson 723 Posts
Posted on 1/21/2008 1:08 PM

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