do you try to 'pass' as married?

I think in the back of my mind I knew I couldn't go back. I took my ring off less than 5 miles from my home and threw it from the bridge into the river. Along with the ring I threw the keys to the apt. I hated the stigma attachted to being ' twice' divorced. I looked the other way to many times before we were married. I even accepted some of the responsibility for his cheating behavior, which I realize now was ridiculous.Why shouldn't I have held him up to the standards I set for myself? The truth was, he had my head spinning, classic for a sociopath. They keep you reeling so you can't even trust your own eyes or your own sanity.
More than being ashamed of being divorced twice is the fact that I married the SOB to start with. But like I've been explaining to friends, unless you have been involved with someone who is a sociopath, you really can't understand the craziness of it all.
I simply say ' I'm divorced'

I still refer to myself as married, technically I am. After all his lying, cheating and deception about our finances, for some stupid reason I still love him. I can't imagine not referring to him as my husband. When I took off my wedding ring I bought a pink sapphire and diamond ring to wear on my ring finger because I couldn't stand to see that finger bare. My friends say it looks like i'm still wearing a wedding ring. But I just can't help myself right now.

I don't usually bring it up.  If asked, I'll say I'm in the process of divorcing, and I leave it at that.

I choose to be happy and I try to move forward.  Actually I've noticed that talking about my problems seems to make me feel bad.

Moving on, makes me feel better....

I've always just said it the way it was; either married, going through a divorce or as now, I'm divorced. Quite honestly, I'd rather say I'm divorced, than pretend to be married to his sorry a$$. I've never try to keep it a secret, even before it was finalized. Mentally I was over him waaaay before I ever asked for a divorced. Just happy it's over now.

I took off the ring and tried wearing it once, but it's too painful.  All I tell people that ask is, "used to be"  that is pretty much a conversation killer but it works.  Their is really no reason for a guy to pretend to be married anymore.

I refer to myself as divorced. I agree with Dactyl, I am 38 and didn't plan on being a divorcee but that is what happened. Monday night at parent teacher conferences one of the teachers called me Mrs., I didn't react, my son looked at me to see if there was a reaction but even though I heard it, I chose not to react to it. I took my ring off the night I threw him out...I haven't worn a ring on my left hand since. In fact, I rarely wear jewelry at all. While it doesn't thrill me to say I am divorced, it sure beats saying I am married to jackass.

I took off my ring (and gave it to my daughter who intends to remove the stone and have set in a necklace someday) as soon as Mr. X admitted he wanted a divorce.  He claimed he was divorced before the papers were even filed, let alone finalized.  I told everyone at work (advice of my kids and good advice it was for me), and I may not like being 56 and single, but I am and I admit it.  Won't change that status by saying I'm married.  I don't want to be connected with Mr. X for a lot of reasons.  There are worse things than being single.  One of them is to be married to a sociopath.

I am still married, so when people ask I tell them that and do not elaborate.  Close friends know what is going on with me anyway.  I still wear a ring and do not need to be the topic of office gossip.  I work at a residence for adults living with mental illness, so sometimes residents get crushes on staff.  It's sort of like having a crush on the teacher.  Some of them have had pretty rough lives.  One very sweet man asked if I would have coffee with him a couple of times.  he was so polite and charming about it.  Being married was convenient for responding to that without hurting his feelings.  I told him that because I am a married woman, I can not meet handsome single gentlemen for coffee.  I do look forward to the day I can be "out of the closet" about all of this.  It's funny.  Nobody that I tell is ever surprised.  They all suspected problems already.

I'm like Beebee.. "I say I'm single, divorced, loving my new single life, excited"

Although he wanted/started the divorce.. no 2 months post divorce.. I'm beginning to think maybe I should have been the one to do it.  I don't hide for both the reason, it helps me face reality and I have no issues telling someone no.. so the unwanted advances haven't been much of an issue.  If poeple run screaming.. their not for me anyway!

It is so ironic that you ask this today!!!  I had to take my son to the doctor for his routine check-up, and I wore my ring. Technically speaking, I am still married. But really-no. Pretending sure does ward off unwelcome "poor single mommy" looks and unwanted advances from men. And I see nothing wrong with that. He was only a husband when it was convienant for him since the begining, so now I am "married" when it's conveinant for me!

Don't fake it, need to shake it, cause I won't take it! 

I get on with the business of living, somewhat.  However, at times I vacillate between the two names not worlds.  His lame ass won't sign, so technically . . . there it is.  I can't wait till it's over.  He said he wanted his name off of all of this shit but he won't take his name off of this shit (me).  That being said sometimes I forget that I'm divorcing triffling ass and I interchangeably use my maiden/married name.  For no other reason other than forgetfulness!  When will his SHIT end!

I say I am  married...because technically, I am. (And will be until my dying day if he doesn't get off his ass and do something!)   It has helped with unwanted "date" offers.   I haven't met anyone yet that I wanted to be single for.

Although I am STILL married, I tend to refer to myself as single. It does depend on the situation. I've mentioned that I'm married and friends correct me and "remind" me that I'm divorced. It's going on two years and they can't believe I'm still not divorced. So I am still technically married, though my STBX has been acting divorced for 2 years now. I don't expect the divorce to be final for yet another 6 months at this rate.

I'm not ashamed to be single. At this point my STBX has done so much humiliating stuff that I'm more ashamed to be married to him then anything else.

Why pass yourself off as married? You may miss out on an opportunity with a great guy! You never know who might know the perfect man for you!

I say I'm single, divorced, kicked his ass to the curb, loving my new single life, excited.....then they slowly turn around and walk away scared out of their minds.  That usually keeps the low lifes away from me for a while so that I can enjoy the spotlight on the dancefloor by myself!  ha ha

I say I'm divorced.  I don't see any reason to try not say it.  It's not the taboo that it once was.  I didn't want to be 38 and a divorcee, but here I am.  I want people to take me or leave me.  If you have problems with me because I'm divorced, that's your problem, not mine.

Well- I proudly say I am single but recently have put my birthstone ring on my left hand. I have been bombarded recently with unwanted hits from men that  I have no desire to even talk to. I am too nice( although I am learning to say NO) . It gives me an easier way out if needed..The ring was given to me by my kids- I can say it was given to me by someone very special whom I care about deeply..haha.

I just say I am single. If someone would probe further I would tell I was divorced. Does not bother me anymore it is what it is. 

I am recently seperated. I don't where a ring anymore. And when I am in a group of people I keep repeating in my mind"pleas don't ask me if I'm married". I avoid the topic even though I know I shouldn't. I'm treating it like a secret, the kind you would never tell anybody. But I don't think I have excepted my situation yet. Hasn't really "hit me" yet. If I got cornered on it, I would tell the truth. I think of it like this, I got an F in human relationships, so instead of telling my parents and friends about the F, I'm just gonna walk around like I didn't get a report card. I know its a lame excuse, but "don't ask, don't tell" is my current policy. So yeah, I fake it in a round about way