Turn the other Cheek?? Are you serious??

If your therapist said this, and up until now you have found the therapist's advice helpful, then it is something you should consider.

"Consider" just means to think about it, not necessarily do it. Let's say that you did choose to simply stay married. Some people really do choose to stay married while one spouse has affairs. They do not necessarily continue to have sex. Often, they will insist on ground rules: must be discreet, must not intrude on family time, must not be with anyone known to the spouse, etc. One usually specifies consequences.
 
Would you be better off if you stayed married, but basically lead separate lives otherwise? If divorce means you would lose your health care, not be able to afford housing, traumatize the children--it might be worth having a marriage of convenience.

Even Princess Diana said (after her nasty divorce) that she ought to have considered some kind of understanding with her husband; he would handle the speeches and she would handle the mixing and mingling, and they might have continued the marriage (having discreet affairs).

Marriage is not just a romantic coupling--it is a family unit and it is a business arrangement. Sex is not that big a part of it. Once you divorce, he's going to be sleeping with people other than you anyway--and if you will be in the same situation married or divorced vis-a-vis his affairs, but better off financially married, it really is something to consider.

Some people really are better off in a "continental" style marriage in which exclusive sex is not part of the deal.  This is not a matter of right/wrong, but of what is best for you.  So, just think it over--whatever is best for you, is best for you.  If people go to hell for having affairs (and I wouldn't say they don't), he's the one going there, not you.

FIRE the therapist!!!!

I have lived long enough to realize that it takes all kinds in life.    

So with that said, I know of some pretty bizaar marriages that have mutually agreed on some very strange "rules of engagement" that I personally could never agreed to.   But their marriages lasted longer than mine did so who am I to judge?

I just think whatever is agreed to between two people is their business and their marriage.     Its between them and only them.

I agree with bluebird...do not just turn your back and feels well it's ok..men being men!  I firmly believe that the majority of men & woman believe there are sacrifices, highs & lows to every relationship.  And only the strong come thru with the support and care that comes with that.  There is no excuse..get out if it is that bad or work and getting it to the point of the reasons that brought you together in the first place.  Those who cheat don't want that. Some believe the grass is always greener on the other side...me, I believe to work at keeping my grass green, not relying on some other grass to make me feel whole again.  I deal with someone else wanting my home and life so her grass is green again.  I will not turn my back but forward thru with the will and strength to achieve what I truly believe...to find someone who finds love......the understanding that will all the faults and greatest moments believe's you were there for me thru everything.  Not someone who is always looking for someone else (greener) to make the pasture wonderful once again.

Hahah OMG...look the other way???  Is she serious???  I do get it if you said to her that you don't want to leave, and that you want to fix it no matter what.....But other then that ,,,hell NO!! The problem is that he(well or other woman) takes love and affection away from you, it's not just about him spendind 2 hours with someone....   Hmm.If you just want to stay and be married, she was right :)  Answer for your self and untill you do DO NOT GO BACK TO ANY THERAPHISTS!  Kisses and cheer up my love.....IT is just a hiccap in your life not the end of the world!!!!!

If we turn the other cheek, doesn't that negate the fact there is a marriage?  I say find a new therapist, this one is just insuring your lengthy future in therapy.

Many women do turn the other cheek but they sure as heck don't like it.  They usually have situations that would make it too hard to walk out.  Perhaps your therapist was playing devil's advocate just to see where you are with this.

I can totally believe that there are women who turn the other cheek because, financially, they can't get out of the marriage. So they tolerate the behavior. Just horrible and personally I'd rather live in a homeless shelter or go live with a family member or friend temporarily than tolerate that. If I hadn't have found the pix of my husband on the skank's myspace page, I'd probably still be married, desperate to stay in that marriage and my ex would SWEAR he wasn't cheating on me, while he would be sneaking out to meet her. So in this case, for once, I'm glad I found the pix. That made me realize that I truly wasn't losing anything after 21 years of marriage.

My grandmother gave me this advice right before I married my husband.  They had a very loving relationship and I made the mistake of asking her if she had some words of wisdom. "Look the other way. Men will be men.  He will come back when he realizes what he has at home."  Wow.

I am sure her daughter did not benefit from that piece of insightful advice. Her husband was going to leave her for a woman that was a prostitute.   She actually worked at a brothel in Mexico. Thankfully he had a heartattack.  Or was it a heartattack?  The rumors started flying  when he passed away. His family accusing my family of all sorts of things.  I was too young to find out what really happend.  Yes both families had money so nothing surprises me.

Your therapist is an idiot. I found out after he left. Had I found out while we were married, I would have stayed married and let him catch me in bed with a hot stud :). Sorry, feeling a little vindictive.

No. You DO NOT have to accept this. I don't know why these other women accepted it.

Infidelity breaks the marriage vows. You can't have a marriage that includes a third person.

If you're like most of us, you feel like someone ripped your still beating heart out of your chest.

If he's like the other cheaters, he thinks there's nothing wrong with it because it feels good to him. He has no remorse and no concern at all for your feelings. He is utterly selfish.

Why would you stay married to a man who could not possibly consider your feelings on this most fundamental level?