Does financial abuse count?

Tell me, does financial abuse count?  My husband didn't cheat on me like so many others on this site, but he committed what I would call financial abuse.  He was involved in a business venture, where he spent $80,000 - our life savings most of it behind my back.  He took money out of our investments, put it into his business account and paid himself.  After the first $10,000 discovery, we had a talk about consulting with each other before making any large expenditures.  I believed him and trusted him.  STUPID, STUPID woman I am.  I wasn't paying attention, because at the time we weren't really adding to the account and he started getting the statements at work.  RED FLAG.  Before I knew it, it was almost gone.  I finally threated him, it's either you business or your family so he quit, so I thought.  So, he gets no unemployment.  Five months later, I decided to look at his computer files and find no signs that his is looking for a job.  However, there's all these business related emails (He was ran an IT staffing company).  He was still trying to work his business rather than look for a job!!!!

It's been 20 months and 4 days later.  I've had to refinance my house in my name to save it.  I now hove a $20,000 school loan, which should have only been about $12,000 but, we needed the money to make ends meet.

I begged, pleaded, cried and tried to be supportive.  He won't even get a part time job.  Yet he's suprised that I want a divorce.  (there are also issues of emotional abuse to myself and my kids).  He can't understand why???

I filed for custody of the kids.  We have to take a class and go through mediation  Nov. 17.  He's begging me to stop it.  But, I have nothing left to say... He's taken all of me sucking away at my soul and probably destroying me financially.

He's said he'll sue me for spousal support.  He'll also fight me in court, because he says this isn't going to happen.  I tried offering a generous settlement, but instead, he'd rather destroy what little is left of me, our finances and force me to sell the house.   What a man!!!

He says he loves me and can't live without me and its my fault if we divorce.