How to move out of state with a child?

My husband ran out on me and my son. Left me to take care of everything myself, ie: sell the house, pay the debts and give him enough money to start his new family. I've been working for 15 years and was laid off before Christmas. I've taken this year to take care of divorce business and take care of myself because I'm in no condition to work and deal with all of this. I'm also acting as my own attorney because I'm completely broke.

I may have an opportunity to get a job in Las Vegas in my field and as a promotion to my previous jobs. I currently live on the East Coast. I have full physical custody and shared legal.

My STBX is a real bastard about everything and is egged on by his mistress/baby momma. (yes he had another baby and we are still married) He moved her here from 500 miles away and moved in with her.

My extended family has their own issues and I've had it with all of them. I see nothing here but pain and the past holding me down. I have nothing here. All I have is my son. Why not start over in a new city far away from all this crap that will cause nothing but problems especially during the holidays.

How do I get permission to start a new life somewhere else with my son?

by BecksMom 232 Posts
Posted on 9/15/2009 3:07 PM

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It's not the pain as much as having the freedom to start a new life the way I want to. He was able to start a new life the way he wanted to and I should be able to do the same. Especially since my reason is to be employed so that I can live and support my son, as opposed to his reason....to get laid.

This is my second chance? But I can only start over with my hands tied behind my back? It's just frustrating.

by BecksMom 232 Posts
Posted on 9/16/2009 9:20 AM

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this happened to me too...and he wouldn't allow me to move. these divorce laws are very frustrating and unjust. iget that a court can't fix every situation....but something needs to change.

if he refuses to let you move and the courts agree, do you have any other ideas on how you can move past all this pain without actually moving?

by paula1 12662 Posts
Posted on 9/16/2009 3:40 AM

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Maryland puts the burden on you (custodial) to prove it would be in everyone's best interest for you to move.

So you are going to have to petition the court and make sure you have all of your ducks lined up in a row as to why it would be a good idea as well as a game plan as to allowing him to see the child which may have to include you providing the funds for travel since you are the one electing to leave and making it harder for him to see his child.

BTW - unless he agrees to it - you won't be out of court on it before the holidays.

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 9/15/2009 3:29 PM

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