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Too Trusting and Too Romantic?

I'm very soon turning 54.Saturday evening I was told by women co workers that I  am too trusting and too romantic.

They knew me before I met my stbx.They observed my interaction with my stbx during our 3 years dating and eventual marriage.

Is it possible to be too trusting and too romantic? When my first wife left me and our children I changed my life around to be a role model for my children.Now 26 years later to have this said to me,I can't believe it.

Ladies,are there that many predators out there to do harm?


by Byron   242 Posts 
Posted on 9/14/2009 2:26 PM
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I think you are as trusting and romantic as you can stand and I mean that in the best possible sense.    I mean, with trust comes some amount of pain, with romance comes some amount of disappointment (at some point).    If you are someone with a very high tolerance for possible pain and disappointment in exchange for a very high level of trust and romance, then you would not be slowed down or tempered by opening yourself up as fully as possible for and and all romance and trust because any downside (pain and/or disappointment) would not present a big enough deterrent for you.    You would see it as all doable.

So love and romance and trust as much as you can stand.   I believe each of us chooses the level which we are comfortable with both with the good and any risk for bad.
by pixy   100 Posts
Posted on 9/15/2009 11:52 AM
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I too am too trusting and romantic! I think its a beautiful thing, we tend to live our life through our hearts and you can't go wrong with that. Its terrible that people as beautiful as ourselves can't truly be ourselves because of ugly people out there.

Since my split I have learned this trait about myself and will not change it for the world, however, I guard it like nobody's business. Don't change who you are you will find someone who loves you for it, but do guard it, as it is us who are easily hurt!
by baddlizz   256 Posts
Posted on 9/14/2009 9:14 PM
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Ok, here's my opinion.  You can definitely be too trusting not but not too romantic.  You can be romantic for the joy and love of romance.  Romance doesn't necessarily mean the person you're romancing is the right person for you and it should be cut off if you have no intentions for a long relationship.  Romance shouldn't be taken too seriously.  Trust, on the other hand is another matter.  Trust should not be handed over willy nilly.  Trust needs to be earned.  Should you fall in love too soon you may give trust where it isn't deserved and you already know what happens when that mistake is made.
by Char1   99 Posts
Posted on 9/14/2009 6:31 PM
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Whew- too trusting..yep that is me! I am the same way. Yes there are predators..yes they will fool you..yes they will use you!
As for the romance..I guess THAT would depend on the recipient- Me personally would LOVE romance..but I am not the type that wants or needs flowers every day. A romantic dinner every now and then would be nice..a few love notes hidden away..candles ..Like I said - some thrive on it some don't. Some are like me and want a little..happy medium!
by mtnvly   3539 Posts
Posted on 9/14/2009 4:38 PM
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What I mean by not making a fool of you; is to be picky about who you trust and let in your heart.

If your not, then all you can do is blame yourself for the hurt you get. To me people have the right to refuse these issues and should do so if it doesn't fit. But you should find a way to protect you... 

Just my perspective on the romance and trust issue.
by Lovemeknot   240 Posts
Posted on 9/14/2009 2:45 PM
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I think it is fine to be trusting and romantic it all has it's time and place...

Just don't let it make a fool of you...
by Lovemeknot   240 Posts
Posted on 9/14/2009 2:35 PM
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