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help with absent husband

I need help here. I have been married for two year with a young daughter. My husband is a good provider with finance's. But when it comes to dividing his time between friends and family he never and i do mean never chooses his family. If there is a family outing i have planned for weeks on end with his daughter and me and something comes up last minute for his friends he wont do the family thing. If i ask him to come home from the friends house early or at a resonalbe time he will say yes just to get out of the house then just not come home. I know he is not having an affair hes not that kind it really is the friends if i ask don't drink allot we have things to do the next morning he gets drunk to the point of stupid. What do i do this is making me want a divorce this is making me hate him i have told him how i feel about the issue and he chooses not to listen tell me short of walking out what do i do?
by sljakeway    14 Posts   
Posted on 1/19/2008 7:05 PM    
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An individual, man or woman, that does not voluntarily go to counseling will not productively participate in the process if coerced into doing so regardless of the situation. The feelings that you feel towards him out of anger and frustration are further validated by his disinterest in interacting to any capacity with you and your child; and, this in itself, will most likely lead to what you state you do not wish to pursue. Have you attempted to talk to any members of his family regarding your concerns?
by bp   648 Posts
Posted on 1/23/2008 6:57 AM
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I have asked him for that totally refuses he says a man never needs counseling he needs a few good friends.
by sljakeway   14 Posts
Posted on 1/20/2008 11:55 AM
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maybe go to counseling?
by Vicki   854 Posts
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