parenting consultant

I am having a hard time understanding how some people come up with there decisions. First off according to my states child custody statues my ex husband and I should not have joint custody of our children. He abused me, has been on depression medication and I was a stay at home mom for years. So in all reality I should have custody of our children.
So because of the high conflict in our parenting we were court ordered to have a parenting consultant to help with issues regarding the children. Our first issue addressed was were our children will attend school. To me is was common sense that the children go to school in my district. I am a daycare provider I can get the kids on and off the bus, I can be available when a child gets sick during school. And because I am a daycare provider I can not drive the children to my X's school district which mean our children would have to be in daycare in his school district from 5:30am - 7:00pm. To me it was just common sense. The parenting consultant decided it was best to place the kids in his school district. I was baffled. How is it in the childrens best interest to be placed in daycare when I am readily available. Well after drawing a picture as to what will happen to our children to the parenting consultant she changed her mind. The kids are now in my school district.
Here is my question. Can a parenting consultant make a decision about something without doing a in depth research? And with out discussing it with me first and hearing my side? I ask because now the consultant has decided to change our parenting plan that both my X and I agreed to and signed in our divorce decree. The schedule that is in the decree was a schedule created by a child custody evaluator that did the in depth research. Which was meeting with both my X and I with and without the children. The parenting consultant never met with the children. She just up and changed it. I am sure my X asked her to change it and give him more days, but she NEVER discussed it with me. How is that fair?

by lynnjones 61 Posts
Posted on 9/10/2009 10:37 AM

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vacation days and permanent visitation are two different animals....he has a right to say no to vacation time, as do you, when it falls on what should be your time.

I'm asking why you have an issue with him getting more permanent days, because, quite frankly, he has the right to 50% of the year....

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 2:26 AM

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spaz, I would like more time with the kids also, but for some reason I am not getting it. I have requested multiple vacation days with the kids didn't get any of them. Everyone would like more time with there kids. The parenting plan that is set in the divorce decree should be the parenting plan played out. Isn't that why it was agreed upon and signed?

by lynnjones 61 Posts
Posted on 9/10/2009 6:25 PM

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Yes they can - but you have the right to contest it if you want. You can even go the length of requesting a different consultant if you feel, and can prove, there is a bias towards your ex.

Why are you so upset he got some more time with the kids? How is that a problem, can you explain?

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 9/10/2009 2:04 PM

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Spaz, The custody evaluator was the person that created the schedule. She JUST did the evaluations. The parenting consultant is a new person that hasn't done a in depth research. You pose a very good question. I guess it is because the evaluator is further away??? Can a parenting consultant change the schedule like that with out doing a in depth evaluation like the custody evaluator?

by lynnjones 61 Posts
Posted on 9/10/2009 2:00 PM

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If you had one coordinator before that was doing "in depth" research - what happened to them to where you now have another one?

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 9/10/2009 10:59 AM

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