Help! What do I do????

I filed for legal seperation, that is what I was told to do in order to get the ball rolling...Okay my soon to be ex is in the Air Force & is in Qatar. I filed in Cali he is telling me that everything I am doing is wrong and that when he comes home in Nov to Texas he is going to file 4 divorce. Can he do that re-file is there a difference right away??? I have been a stay at home mom for a while now and a full time student he is telling me he is going to take our daughter away from me...I am scared...I dont know which way to move, and dont want this to get expensive either cuz i dont have a job, and I have been looking too! Everytime I tell him I want 50-50 custody he calls me all kinds of names and just leaves me feeling stupid all over...

by Bonbonbaby 13 Posts
Posted on 9/4/2009 2:46 PM

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Ya I tried doing that I was even told to go to red cross but I live with his family and they are even telling them that I need money to live off of but nothing. He said that he has sent enough for me and his child to live off of so being that they stated I need to take legal action well i am trying to do that but he just states I am in the military I dont have to abide by any of that because I am deployed but the info I sent him stated that the parenting class can be online and that mediation and court can be done over the phone but he wants nothing to do with it!

by Bonbonbaby 13 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 1:10 PM

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try to ask for the separation money (the part of his salary that is supposed to be for ur and the house) to help u pay bills, rent etc.

while he send u money the ARMY cannoit hold the paycheck...so if u can handle it for a few weeks, dont recieve the money and then go again and tell them that u have 0 dollars for food or rent, thhheeeen they can force him!!!

by carossi 141 Posts
Posted on 9/6/2009 11:05 PM

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i did go to his commander he said that as long as he is still gving us money then he cant get invovled which makes no sense all he wants to give me to live on is 250.00 a mos and pay his bills too ugh...

by Bonbonbaby 13 Posts
Posted on 9/6/2009 12:19 AM

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as far as I know for my experience (ARMY not airforce) you cant fille for anything while he is active duty.... so Im guessing if he is there then he is.

u should go to hi chaincommander, they can help u!!!

good luck!!

by carossi 141 Posts
Posted on 9/5/2009 11:52 PM

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When I went to Jag they told me file for legal seperation so that is what i did, but he started quoting off some codes and i got scared that i am doing everything wrong...

by Bonbonbaby 13 Posts
Posted on 9/5/2009 11:21 PM

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Do you have an attorney or are you doing this by yourself?

You probably aren't wrong in what you are doing, he just doesn't like it. I suggest you ignore him & his rantings.

You can get legal advice from JAG, I suggest you talk to them about it. Or ask family to help you out with a loan to get an attorney (if you don't have one) to ensure you are doing everything correctly.

If he wants divorce, why don't you just switch your filing to that instead of the legal separation?

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 9/5/2009 12:10 PM

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