Co-parenting impossible

My 17 yr old has a 5 mo old baby. Her dad has quit paying child support. He refuses to speak with me and when my dau stayed with him for 1.5 mos, he dropped her back because I refused to pay him twice the amount her ordered me to pay him. He's the one who is under court order. Since child support case is from a private case, DOR (Dept of Revenue) cannot do anything, however I have requested that his DL and registration be revoked.

Our teen is going to 12th grade and she seems happy back home with me but I cannot discuss anything with him. Right before she and her baby was dropped back home, he had a gun when he came to his apt door when I came by to drop stuff off to our dau. He is so angry. He says he was told not to give me any money since our dau stayed with him those 1.5 mos. So out of 12 whole months her staying 1.5 mos gives him the right to stop? I cannot discuss school or medical issues with him and he has the medical ins on her.

He refuses to answer anything, email, text or ph so I stop trying. I did send emails with my answer to his child custody suit which we have yet to get scheduled. She will be 18 Oct 9th and he still offered her to live at his apt when he moves into his house in Oct or Nov. I emailed him that it would be education sabotage if he allows her to move in his place. As expected, no response.

She is still in counseling over being sexually abused by our pastor and shows signs of sexual promiscuity as it is. Left alone could be dangerous to her and her baby. She begins getting her monthly settlement check Nov 1st.

by Ladytoni 43 Posts
Posted on 8/14/2009 6:31 AM

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The state is has notified my ex that his DL is in jeopardy of being suspended if he does not catch up child support. He so far is not paying attention. He feels he is above the law since he is self-employed. I was notified today about mediation on Sept 29th. Our dau turns 18 Oct 9th and according to Dept Children Services, she can move out. She plans to on Oct 9th.

I will write the judge and asked that mediation be waived and let's just get to the hearing. I ahve already told my ex he can stop when she is 18.

by Ladytoni 43 Posts
Posted on 8/25/2009 5:27 PM

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You don't need an attorney to file a contempt charge regarding non-payment of money due to you. It's a matter of a simple form you can probably find on your court's website...look into it.

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 8/14/2009 1:42 PM

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Yes, I can file contempt, however the attorney fees would be 3 times what he owes me right now. So I files for his DL and veh registration to be revoked. He will get a letter and have 10 days to respond.

She would rather live with her dad because he let her have her way about everything. However she would not be living with him just under his lease. This is CRAZY!!! This shows just how much he cares about her well-being.

However he brought her back home two Sat's ago because I did not pay the bounced check he sent to the state and the state paid me after he stop payment on the check for our daughter being with him for 2 weeks.

Now the state want their money from him. He says I owe that to the State and I say NOT! So he wanted me to pay that as well as give him double that amount as long as our daughter was at his 1 bedroom apartment and I refused so he threatened to drop her back. When I did not produce the money within 48 hrs per his demand, he dropped her and her baby back.

I am glad they are both back in their own rooms. I can keep an eye on her and the baby.

by Ladytoni 43 Posts
Posted on 8/14/2009 1:35 PM

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Only way to handle the non payment of child support is to file contempt charges against him.

She won't be emancipated until she graduates HS, so you do need to take him to court over this - and don't worry about custody - a judge won't change it so close to her emancipation - UNLESS - your daughter expresses a desire to move with him - but she CAN'T be living alone in that apartment - make sure the judge is aware of that plan.

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 8/14/2009 12:57 PM

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