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How to give thanks when words just won't do?

Is there someone or some people that have really stepped up to the plate since your divorce? Now that you are seeing the light at the end of the tunnel how do you properly thank them?

I don't even know when to start in thanking my parents.....they have done so much for me in these awful times. I am 38 and suppose to have my wings and be out in the world on my own, they are suppose to be enjoying their golden child free years together. They did their duty, boy did they, I was a difficult teen and they loved me unconditionally regardless but I bet they were very happy to see me go at 21.

My wings of independence have been clipped and at times they positively felt broken.

So many things they have done for me during and since my divorce.....They let me move back in with my kids and DOG (they have never had a house dog), they fought to keep me on my feet when I wanted to give up, all the financial support that I will never be able to repay them for and the continued emotional support. It seems like my cupboards are never bare, my daughters gas tank is never empty, and I never feel like I am going to die from loneliness.

Today was a day that my only meal was french fries and an apple pie from McDonalds, and almost as if they knew my dad shows up at dinner time with a warm plate of homemade mom food, nourishment for my body and soul. I just can't seem to thank them enough and am finding it hard to find the words to show just how much I appreciate everything they have done and continue to do for me and my kids.

I want them to know, beyond words, how much I have been blessed to have the greatest parents in the world....but how?

by eclectic 268 Posts
Posted on 8/9/2009 10:30 PM

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YES! The letter/card idea is perfect. My mom can put it next to the one I wrote her when I was 16 and full of hate. She recently showed me the previous letter when I was not seeing eye to eye with my 17 year old daughter and said she saved it for just that very reason. My letter was full of venom and hate towards her and my father, get this, because they would not allow my boyfriend to spend the night, 3 pages handwritten of hate. I felt like a heel. She kept it because she knew someday I would be a mother and get to experience the joys of the "teenage years" and that I shouldn’t take things my daughter says right now personally.

Thanks for the great ideas. The thought of giving them something they can hold onto and possibly cherish as others parents did!

by eclectic 268 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2009 7:23 AM

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YES! The letter/card idea is perfect. My mom can put it next to the one I wrote her when I was 16 and full of hate. She recently showed me the previous letter when I was not seeing eye to eye with my 17 year old daughter and said she saved it for just that very reason. My letter was full of venom and hate towards her and my father, get this, because they would not allow my boyfriend to spend the night, 3 pages handwritten of hate. I felt like a heel. She kept it because she knew someday I would be a mother and get to experience the joys of the “teenage years” and that I shouldn’t take things my daughter says right now personally.

Thanks for the great ideas. The thought of giving them something they can h

by eclectic 268 Posts
Posted on 8/11/2009 7:20 AM

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it is so nice that you love and cherish your parents the way you do.. i like how you respect them with all your heart. just always let them know how you feel. never hide things from them always be upfront. like hereigo and kitty said.. just write it down and show them like that. they will appreciate it. i am sure of it..and keep loving them too..

good luck

cherbear.

by cherbear 5182 Posts
Posted on 8/10/2009 9:43 PM

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My parents are both gone, as they both passed away in 2002. I often wrote them letters telling them how much they meant to me. One year on Father's Day, I wrote my Dad a long letter telling him how much he meant to me, and re-living stories from my childhood. He made copies of that letter and sent it to almost everyone he knew, he was so proud. Not only was it framed in his office, but he kept the original in him wallet. I found it when he died. I still have a copy, but honestly, I could recite it from memory.

Maybe you could do the same. Trust me, he will cherish it forever.

by Kitty7470 2621 Posts
Posted on 8/10/2009 9:35 PM

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Print out this blog and show them. I think they'll get the picture.

Good luck!

by HereIgo 756 Posts
Posted on 8/10/2009 9:25 PM

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Maybe a nice long, from the heart letter would be something they would appreciate. A letter that expresses from the heart your appreciation for them and all they have done for you and your kids. A card would be nice too but might not be enough room to write all you may want to. I am sure they would keep it and read again often and cherish the love you demonstrate towards them. As a parent I would appreciate this simple but most treasured gesture from my kids.

by curious123 979 Posts
Posted on 8/10/2009 9:25 PM

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My Mom has been absolutely amazing through it all, I'm still sad about the breakup but so glad that Mom and I have had the chance to reconnect. The benefits of her wisdom are priceless, and if not for the divorce we'd never have had this opportunity.

by Natalie 729 Posts
Posted on 8/10/2009 5:43 PM

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I don't know how you would thank them for all they have done. One would be to continue to grow, be healthy and love them back.

by sjg 1772 Posts
Posted on 8/9/2009 10:44 PM

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