I'm still alive...

It might look dark now, but one day you will put all of this behind you.  We have to learn to stop looking at the past, we cannot change the past. Keep pressing forward.  This might help alittle, we reap what we sow! Plus do not think that what he is doing to you, he will not do to her also or worst, aleast you are out of the situation and you can move on to a better life.  Shake the dust from your feet and move on, there is someone out there that deserves you!

Well F, we both have made it this far and we are alive!  You must discipline yourself (as I) by keeping the imaginary scenarios out of your mind.  Please keep your girls free from the pain you suffer as their youth and raging hormones are enough of a challenge for them.  Who cares if she is moving there, and who cares about him?  Really try to let it go.  I know that it is hard as when my wife was in Edmonton I was fixated on her to a great degree.  Today she is in NC and I feel relieved as she is a world away.  I am not sure if you know what Agape means, but it is principled love, the highest form of love.  We have all types of love, between parent and child, husband and wife, etc.  Love is hard to explain but it is easier to tell how it acts.  Please see 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 as it shows how we can cope with our unfaithfull spouses.  I am not a bible guru, but I read a lot.  I like the fact that you are a believer and so am I as 3500 years ago Isaiah 40:22 states that the earth is round.  Archaeology and scholars have voiced this book as authentic.  Yet, we only found out that the earth was round 2000 years later.  So the bible is from a supernatural source............So consider your faith as a means to cope during your difficult time.  I suffer daily and spend most of my day in bed.  All we ask for is happiness, is it really so hard to achieve it?  You are my friend and I know you are doing the best you can.  These are but a few sugestions.    Kev

Good to hear you are hanging in there.
Keep fighting the good fight.

I totally feel for you, our divorce was final in May and his exwife(current girlfriend) just bought him a house about 10 minutes from me.  She lives in Vegas and she has been here in MI for the last three weeks helping him get the house in order.  I just dont understand how she can be away from her 3 year old daughter for so long, so far away, what kind of mother does that????  My EX has subjected our 4 year old son to her the very first two weeks he left, when I didnt even know there was someone else, he just said he wanted a divorce because I wasnt happy.   He has moved on with this other life so fast and has had the kids with her overnight on vacation, memorial weekend and two weekends ago in there new home.  It just kills me inside.  I have accepted they are together, I DONT like it, but I accept it.   What bothers me the most is his lack of communication with me and the way he talks to me on the phone when it comes to discussing our children.  I am so done with that!!!!  I have been nothing but nice thru this whole ordeal, and been thrown to the side, struggling as a single parent, all the while his exwife supports him and takes cares of him totally.  ALL I ask for is some RESPECT as the mother of his children only deserves.