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Ex refuses to take kids to bday parties/activities on his weekends....should i refuse to let them go?

this has been going on for years....he does not believe the kids should go to bday parties or dance class or softball on his weekends. he believes they need to spend time with him alone. his weekend is coming and my kids are holding up bday invites wanting to go.....should i refuse to let him take the kids? am i being crazy here? they are missing out on all social activities because he is being selfish, no? thougths?
by Vicki    854 Posts   
Posted on 1/17/2008 1:42 PM    
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by Rhonda   1 Post
Posted on 1/18/2008 4:12 PM
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I agree with everyone. On one hand, with little time on weekends I understand wanting that time with kids, but, parties, and such don't last all day, only a couple hours. so it should be balanced for the kids. Not everyone knows, or wants a baance, nor can see it from the kids view. Kids need balance for secruity and structure as much as possible. Perhaps, if u present it that way 2 ur ex, he will see. good luck and let us know how it works out.
by Alta   3 Posts
Posted on 1/17/2008 4:50 PM
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Vicki: While your ex is not obligated to take the kids to birthday parties and such, it's a shame he doesn't see that it is part of being a good parent. Guess I can toot my own horn here. I love taking my son to parties, sport practice and other events on the day's he is with me. In fact, I take care of him much more than the marriage settlement dictates. My advice to you is to accept that your ex doesn't want to be a good dad. And you should try and not get upset by his lack of enthusiasm as a parent. Meanwhile, when the kids are with you, party on with your kids! They will remember those fun times.
by John0Rama   6 Posts
Posted on 1/17/2008 3:24 PM
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What do the kids have to say about it? Maybe they should make their opionions on missing or not missing these events? I mean to me...if it has to do with sports or classes that are paid for then there should be no question about it. To me, that is silly for him to refuse the kids of their activities that are important to their well being and being well-rounded in life. But for parties, etc. if it is just one during his weekend, again what is the issue? I know when I take my son to a bday party I always stay and enjoy the festivities or other parents and sometimes helping. It shows your kids that you want to be involved in their lives and not just creating your own "world" whenever they are visiting the non-primary parent. Just my opinion. I grew up with divorced parents since I was 5. I wish my dad was able to be around more often but know when he was he was always taking OUR considerations as of upmost importance.
by jesszula   255 Posts
Posted on 1/17/2008 2:50 PM
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i'm all for flexible. and have been for years with my ex. but this is a guy who doesn't pay child support, doesn't show up for kids holiday shows, doesn't help with any parenting, refuses to put up a pool fence (even after i offered to pay for it)...i think it's time for him to be flexible?
by Vicki   854 Posts
Posted on 1/17/2008 1:56 PM
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