Am I being unreasonable?

We have been having communication problems for most of our marrige. He is selfish, everything is about him (even when it's not). I am finishing my degree and taking care of the kids at home, he is supposed to work (for a while he was calling in sick a lot, now he is working from home). He has anxiety problems and I have been trying to be understanding - but he makes me feel guilty for going out with the kids or wanting to go out by myself. I would really like to go see my parents, who live in another state, but he doesn't have any more leave to take because he was calling out sick so much (he actually owes his job leave).

Am I being unreasonable, wanting to take the kids to see my parents?

I have no intention of taking the kids away from him - hell we haven't even decided if we are getting diviorced (though I think that is where we are heading).

Now I realize that