child custody

First time here. Not sure if this is the right group. I need help in learning how to deal with the fact that my kids are ready to go live with their father. Not sure I can cope without them. I have been primary for 9 years, with him seeing them every other weekend. Now i will be the one with the weekend visitation. They will be 5 hrs. away from me. They are only 13 and 12 year old boys. My boys want a chance to live with their dad, but it is so hard supporting that decision. If I don't let them go he will force the issue in the court system. I know he loves them and they love him. Everyone says they will be back, that if wont last long. Just don't know if I can deal with it. Feels like part of me is missing. Any advice will be appreciated.

by bbop 1 Post
Posted on 7/4/2009 7:10 PM

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can you talk to your ex about coming up with a fair plan...maybe he has them during the summer, etc. if they are moving that far away, they will be missing friends, their school, etc.

i can understand how they would be interested in trying this out, but they are too young to understand what this all really means for the day to day living arrangments....and in my opinion, the father should have stepped up and said that to them.....nicely....and suggested summers instead.

by paula1 12662 Posts
Posted on 7/6/2009 9:31 AM

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My stepdaughters played the gee we want to live with dad game. It's the age, just let the go, 9 years you had them. My guess is 9 weeks and they will be back.

by Jamesalone 2778 Posts
Posted on 7/5/2009 11:53 PM

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My son was very unruly at an early age. I was primary for 12 years. He went to go live with his dad at that age.

It's worked out ok. I miss the heck out of him. But I see his whenever I want and talk to him on the phone alot.

Because he was so hard to handle, it worked out better this way.

You won't lose your relationship with them. It may just grow stronger.

Good luck.

by butterflyrice 9 Posts
Posted on 7/4/2009 8:19 PM

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