Deadbeat Husband

I am a 40 year old woman 5 years into my first marriage. He is 10 years older and this is his second. I am the primary (really SOLE) breadwinner. My husband is in the creative arts and does not make any money. His father died a year ago and left him some money but he is starting to burn through that funding his "projects". Yes- I knew he was an artist when I married him but while we were living together for 3 years prior, he was contributing some money to the household ($1000 a month). Now he just gives if I ask and if he has it which is rare. He does no housework- other than the occasional dish washing and making sure the dogs are taken out. He is constantly getting into financial jams. I have not received a single tax refund in 4 years because he owed tuition to the state of california that he never paid back- the state takes my money. I did not file "injured spouse" with the irs because i wanted to help him pay the debt off. he still refuses to give me a credit report- says it won't matter.

I wanted children but I am now at the point that I really do not want to bring a child into this mess nor would I trust him as the primary care giver. I may even resent him more because I would like to be able to be a stay at home mom for a year but there is absolutely no way we could ever afford living without my salary.

I had excellent credit and no debt before this marriage and now I await monsters in the mailbox every day.

god knows, my biggest fear is that he will sue me for alimony.

i just love him less and less...