Considering Separation

You loved him enough to marry him in the first place why not give it a "second chance"? Even if it doesn't work at least you will both have closure.

I vote therapy- Because even if you do divorce you want issues resolved ( or try to) regardless.
So try the therapy- if he has suggested it then he is willing to try! And YOU should too!
It may be turn out to be a good thing- your marriage might be salvagable and you can come on this site and help others!
Let us know what you decide!

Definitely go to therapy.  You don't know how fortunate you are to have a spouse that is willing to try.  Without knowing why you are feeling the way you are feeling, it could be something that you aren't aware of that is affecting you.  You got married very young.  You may be wondering what you gave up.  Believe me, if you can salvage your marriage and make it better than ever it will be worth it.  Do yourself a favor though.  Be completely open and honest.  Don't try and sugar coat anything for the sake of not hurting someone.  It is IMPERATIVE that you be transparent.  A good therapist will know how to help.  My counselor won't see a couple until she has seen the individuals at least 3 times alone.  That way she knows where each one is coming from and what their individual concerns are about themselves and their relationship.

If after you have tried and you still feel the same way then you can still get divorced.  Best of luck to you.  Keep us posted.

hmmmmmmm I am going to ask you a couple of questions here . For one is he abusive does he touch you in a demeaning way. If all this that you feel you have fallen out of love with him and you want out wellllll let me interject here. One look past your own nose for a bit if you know your hurting him then why are you there. You want this person(meaning spouse) to move out and you take the kids and live in the house so you don't have to do any of the work. If your so ready to leave him why are you demanding so much. Being if you been my spouse I would have told you where YOU! going to live and how long will it take to get out. You are play here like your trying to be so caring by not hurting him  or you don't want to hurt him. But you expect  him just up and move out. why don't you and leave every thing with him like the kids and the house your the same as him noting special. Take time to get over your self and go to marital counsaling. I believe there is alot more your not telling but I have to ask you what make you so special you have the same equipment as any other woman just got snakes in your head for a reason. now if I am wrong and your being abused or controlled my bad but I am responding to your post.

Please try therapy. There is no reason not to. If it works - you saved your marriage. If not, you can get divorced. Divorce is a huge step which will affect not only you and your HB but the kids. IMO, both you and your HB should make the effort to try to salvage the marriage through counseling before the drastic step of divorce or separation.

Read more blogs on here.  Try...and I do mean try...to rediscover why you loved this person to begin with.  We're not telling you this because we were all left, but because the pain and heartache you and your kids will go through because of your actions will be felt for a lifetime.

If he's willing, go.  There are a lot of men who refuse to go to therapy, and he wants to.  Take advantage of it.  The grass is NOT greener. Ever.

In my opinion, I think that you should go through the therapy to see if there's a change in your feelings.  You do not say why you are unhappy in the relationship, so I'm not sure what's going on but many issues CAN be worked out, but you must give it an honest shot.  Then again, it takes two to actually make it work. I wish you the best in your decision.

At least give therapy a working chance!  Commit to it for 6 months, do everything you can to save your marriage, and if in the end you still feel the same way make that decision.  There have been a lot of marriages saved and become EVEN STRONGER!  At the very least, you will learn more about yourself, and be able to identify how and why you are feeling the way you do.

((HUGS))