Sorry I hit you, but you shouldn't have made me so mad....

I have had enough!  I have put up with being controlled and abused by this man for years, and although I have left and tried to be a better example for my kids, he is still doing it.

Last night he dropped off the kids around 6.  (He pleaded with the GAL that since  it was fathers day, he should have them overnight.  She told him no way, 6 is plenty of time to enjoy the day and for him to stop thinking only of himself, she makes decisions based the kids needs not his.)  Well this pissed him off! 

Anyway, he was supposed to give me my CS check on Friday, but forgot and called to say he will bring it sunday.  No problem. Sunday came.  He finally said his long goodbyes to the kids, and did not mention the check, so I had to ask for it.  The kids were not in earshot, I said it quietly.  (it is a miracle that i get my check on time, he never pays his debts, so i couldn't let it go, it would become a green light to always be late)  He finally gave me the check and said.."i want the key to the safe deposit box"  I said I will bring it to his office in the morning. (this was mentioned that i did need to give it to him, but no specific time was mentioned and I forgot about it.)  He never told me to have it for him on sunday or i would have. He said "no, I want it now!"  I said later...he was furious and said he wasn't leaving and would stay there all night until I got it.  The kids were still in the driveway pretending not to  hear . (fucking knife in my heart)  So ofcourse i go to get it and I friggin forget where I put it.  I  look around alittle, but I need to search a few spots.  I go out and say I can't find it but i know I have it..will bring it tomorrow.  He is furious...I am scared!  I try to ignore his anger and round up the kids to get in the house....he finally leaves.   2 minutes later my cell phone rings.  He leave a screaming message  that he is sick of my bullshit, and is  putting a stop payment on the check.  I am scared of him.

So...this morning I go to the bank, deposit the check immediately, then go to his office and give him the key.  he looks surprised to see me and asks why i am there.  i give him the key and tell him never to do that in front of the kids again.  as i walk away he says...I didn't do anything...he was sooo calm.  I come home to an email that is written very calmly apologizing for leaving the messae]ge, he knows it was wrong and would never do that with the check...but "although my tone was wrong..you were suppose to give me the key last week....."blah blah....normally his emails are angry lectures putting me down and accusing me of things.

He is a typical controller and abuser.

I quess I have no question..I should have put this in the blogs.  Thanks for listening!!

By the way... I forwarded the email to the GAL and told her the story.