DROP OFF & PICK UP QUESTION

I know, it sucks to be nice to someone you hate - however, you have to do things that are in the best interest of the child, not necessarily in the best interest of how you feel

His is coming soon enough when you get back into court with evidence of everything he is in contempt on - as well as multiple offenses of the same thing.

You going out of your way shows you being reasonable - and him not....you have to handle things based on the bigger picture....small spats with him, grinding your foot in the sand due to how you feel rather than the potential legal outcome - can cost you in the long run.

You all are not gonna beleive this but do you know that I sucked it up and just took her to him (out of my way)...I even brought him and his new wife a dozen krispy kreme doughnuts plus Madison had her fathers day gift also (which was a framed recent pic of her and a card).

I was SUPER NICE and acted as if everything was just fine....like SPAZ is telling me, I have got to stay out of court.....he is the type to have me sitting in court everytime i turn my heard.

Funny thing is, he is in contempt as of right this very second....he has yet to provide me with medical insurance for her and has not notified the court or sent me a copy of his notification that he has moved.

Funny how I dont really agree with having to do his job on Fathers Day or anyday as far as taking M to him...Am I supposed to be bullied by him and his new wife?? running her mouth in the background saying (just take her to court over and over).....YET, he can be in contempt of court himself.....I dont get it.

His new wife calls me yesterday and leaves a voice message saying...."I just wanted to thank you for the doughnuts, its the littlest things that matter, and I wanted to let you know how precious your little girl is, and I think you are doing a great job raising her"....ass kisser!

I am dying of curiosity to find out what happened.  He seems to be making it difficult for you.  Didn't you already have a weekend where he was supposed to get her and you made plans to travel out of state.  Like Keizersolsei suggested, what about a neutral party, if not either of your mothers what about a close friend of yours, or one of your siblings if you have any near by.   Where I used to work, there was an agency that offered that service,  a neutral place for the parents to drop the children off and pick up.  I'm not sure if it is still in operation.  I thought it was a great idea.  Keep us posted, please.  Good luck.  Melaine 

My lawyer always tells me that I'm obligated to do what's in the the judgement - in other words, my responsibility stops there. So, if it says that he gets them at a certain time, my obligation is to allow him to get them at that time. The will be dressed, fed and ready to go.  It doesn't sound to me like you legally owe him anything. 

No, his mother lives out of state...my mother hates his guts....the only person he has tried to get to meet up with me is his new wifes mother...whom might i add, I DO NOT KNOW!  sorry, no can do....i will NOT drop my child off with someone i dont know.....and i dont even care to know them either.....bad situation here....basically i have ZERO tolerance for anything that he does or says!

is it possible to have his family be the middle ground?My x's  mother usualy picks up and we will drop off my son at her place as a safe zone so to speak.She doesn't mind doing this,we don't stress our son out and my x won't pull the same crap with her mom involved.It makes my ex behave more like an adult.Not sure if this is for everyone but could cause a lot of disputes.Especialy if one party is running late.good luck.

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that i cant not say, because mine is in the papers. has to be with my ex.. he is an ass..spaz would be able to help you

There is nothing in our papers that states who picks up and drops off....what I want to know is "whose responsiblity is it?" both of ours? I was told with my oldest daughter that it was the non-custodial responisiblity to pick the child up and return her to her home.  I may be wrong but I just want to know if there is a standard law on this when its not in the papers.

i think he has to go by whats in your divorce decree.. dont let him bully you.. it should be the same thing as usual.. my ex bullied me for 6 years.. i finally had enough..good luck and look at your papers

HUGS