What about Father's Day?

Mother's Day came and went with very little fanfare...My daughter asked me a couple of weeks what I wanted for Father's Day since she said I was doing both jobs...How sad...Tomorrow is Father's Day...My stbx came to get the kids today to take them to the movies...He will have them for about 3 hours total and that is only because my daughter asked him to run her by the mall on their way back so she could pick up a birthday present for a friend...First time in over a month that he has either talked to my daughter on the phone or seen her...Actually longer than that for her, it has been about a month since he did anything with my son...

When my stbx got here...I asked him if he had plans to do anything with the kids tomorrow...He is well aware of what day it is...He said, no, he didn't have plans with the kids...Said he was going to grill steak and shrimp on the grill for his Dad...Ok, that is the kid's Grandfather, they can't share the day with him doing that?

Am I the only one that sees something wrong with this picture? If it were me and I didn't have custody of my kids and my stbx would let me see the kids whenever, I would take full advantage of that and have them as often as possible...

Do I press the issue or just make plans and do something with the kids? I thought about making a picnic and going by the lake or something...Not a big deal, just something to do together...I am supposed to see my guy tomorrow, maybe we could all go kayaking or something...

by militaryp 2952 Posts
Posted on 6/20/2009 2:06 PM

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Nice comment BlindFaithNoMore!! My ex had the nerve to ask me to drive out of my way to bring her to him tomorrow and to top it off he also asked if I could bring her fully stocked with food, sun block, and all the extras (sand toys) that come along with boating.....my daughter gets to spend fathers day wayyyyy down south in the Gulf of Mexico allllllllll day long.....she doesnt even want to go :-( so sad that he couldnt find something a little more age appropriate or that she would enjoy herself....she is only 5 yrs old....poor baby!

If I were you, I would mention it to him....thats about all you can do at this point is mention it!

by SKelly 265 Posts
Posted on 6/21/2009 12:59 AM

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The main question is what was he like before the divorce.if he was'nt into them before then he probably won't change.If you want you can try to let him know he is the one missing out.if he doesn't change then he will have to deal with it when he is older and bitching his kids don't call him for fathers day.Just be the best you can be and your kids will always remember. take care:)

by keizersolsei 3 Posts
Posted on 6/21/2009 12:03 AM

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Forget him. You gave him the opportunity to take the kids and he passed, so make plans of your own and celebrate Father's Day mom style. Enjoy
BTW my husband hasn't asked for the day with our son either. There are some people walking this earth that aren't fit to be called human.

by BlindFaithNoMore 170 Posts
Posted on 6/20/2009 10:25 PM

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