Deciding?

We've been married for 25 yrs. I'm sure like all marriages, it hasn't been a smooth ride. We've overcome many obstacles before but recently, I'm not so sure anymore. Basically, the way we see on child-rearing is different. You think I should know this by now since our daughter is 15 and son who is 8. I've tried to live with it and tried to 'fix' it. As I'm getting older, I probably do not have as much patience or tolerance left either. I guess my question is when did you realize that this is it? It's so difficult with children and should I compromise the family?

by kayinquestion 1 Post
Posted on 6/14/2009 8:11 AM

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only you know when 'this is it'.

can you give us more details about exactly what is happening here with the child raising issues.

is this the only marital problem? are there others? if so, what are they?

have you two discussed these issues? what have been the results to date?

by paula1 12662 Posts
Posted on 6/15/2009 11:02 AM

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Kay, if it is only the child rearing in question, I would suggest family counseling for everyone. Here's the deal: if you separate or divorce, you are no longer married but you are still co-parents. You become two single parents. And being a single parent is a whole lot harder than being a dual-parent unit. The trauma of divorce on children is often reflected in acting-out behavior, and I know my coping skills were not as good as I would have liked at times during the whole process.

If there are other issues, such as abuse or addiction, then the equation changes. Infidelity can also cause irreparable harm to a marriage. In those cases you are better off being a single parent.

by Iam 476 Posts
Posted on 6/14/2009 3:59 PM

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