whose house is it?

Hi. I'm new to this site. Since I've been divorced for almost a year, I'm looking for topics where I might have some insight. I don't know why but I fought for the house and it wasn't even much of a house. There was only a few thousand dollars of equity because we had an interest only loan.  I had lived in it with the kids during the separation, but the upkeep was tough. Finally, my ex offered the difference on the credit cards and I took my name off the deed at the county building. I took the kids to a rental where the home was taken care of by the owner, it was in better shape and we had more room.

My situation is similar in the fact that it includes a home.  However I am the only one on the financing and the only one on the deed to the house.  He claims he won't allow me to divorce him, so that just means that we will be tied up in court.  I am toying with the idea of fighting for MY house or for just getting out of the marriage.  I know I have to pick my battle but its hard when I worked so hard to provide a home for my children and he and his son were living with his mother when we got together and they moved into my mobile home, then I bought the house.  He had to initial the loan docs stating basicaly (as I understand it) that he was aware of the loan I was getting for the home.  I just don't want to be the one that gets screwed when I have 2 boys and I feel I provided he and his son with a home. 

i wonder about this, if he has residential custody how can i get our hoe back he already has a new " stepmommy" playing mom to my kids1 she moved in 3 days aftr our divorce was filed? I was in a bad way physically when divorce first happened and he payed verrry dirty. It's been almost 2 years but I am better now and things have changed i have a condo but we built that home togeether  I feel like he should have had to but out my half? Am i WRONG? Now that I am better and starting to think more clearly I am ready to clain what is rightfully mine  and it's not a box of knicknacks and a table !!!

I am in the same boat but you are a step ahead..I am not on the deed. Although I occupy the home and the children reside here, I an f*ed if anything happens. Although I said when we bought the home shortly after you did that I need to be on the deed incase.. he did not follow though and ad my name. Now that we are facing divorce I know it will be ugly as well because of were things are lying right now, I am afraid. The kids are the only thing that saves me because if he kicks me out then the kids will suffer as well.

He has always worked, about 85% of our marriage I stayed home with the kids. They are still young and only half are in school.

Just wanted to throw this out there so you know you are not the only one. It is always a relief to find out you are not alone.

If there is nothing you can gain from the home anyway, just sign a quit claim and walk away.