hard drive advice

My husband is doing the same thing to me!  He is on his "secret" cell phone all the time and he said he HATES cell phones.  He was secretly talking to a family friend's wife and his phone bill was over $300 that month is this past phone bill was just under $300... boy he talks and texts more than my 17 year old daughter. It's unbelievable and he won't come clean either.  He is on the computer a lot also, but erases his cookies when he's done.  How can I get into the hard drive on the computer?  I would really like some evidence that I can bring to an attorney!

he said that this was something we could work out because he didnot sleep with her this time but that is hard to believe also because he works from home and i work in a different town. mind you when i found out in 2000 about the other child i stayed because he said it was over and we lived togther at that time then we went to counsenling because he didnot want to have anything to do with the other child. well in 2003 i found out he never stop seeing and at that time i had just had our second child there again i believed him that it was over and in 20004 we bought a house and got married in 2005 then just last year around dec. i found the cell phone records. mind you i had to call sprint to get the password because he would not give it to me. we would also argue about every 3 months because i just had this feeling that something was going on but when i would ask him to see his emails he would say no and nothing going on and he never came clean about the phone calls because he said i didnt ask. we have been together for 13 years and lived together 7 and have 2 kids together and enough is enough and i am done

I agree with Robert-Boyd, seek legal advice. It sounds like you two have lost all trust in each other which is very hard to get back. Do you think counseling would help? How did he respond when you told him you were filing for divorce?

I would talk to a lawyer to find out if it would be really helpful in your case. Copying it, may just build the tension between you and serve no purpose. On the other hand it could show character issues. Best bet, talk to a lawyer. I am sorry that it's come to this for you.