Broken hearts and losses

yepster I would say V is right. I had this problem I had to work for a girl friend knowing what I look like. I would get one and then it would end in pain. I stopped looking and decide just to study my self and bingo I fell in love with this woman. After about 30 years and a heart of stone I figured I would be alone did not have time any more. At first I felt like I just had to have some one around me and bingo I got ahold of a real winner. I had to get mean again and then I got the nick name cold blood because I quit caring what I said and went on with my life as I wanted to not my family's way or any one elses. I would hear you can't do that and I would do it. I did not get hurt any more and I still have that heart of stone well some soft spots but never the less I still don't give a crap. My current wife knows this and lets me go on with what I am doing with some standard rules we all know what they are. I come to relize that this is a one time shot in life and if I come in second so be it hell least I found out what it was like to be loved back and that is all I ever wanted. So I say do what you have to do if it makes you happy and does not hurt any body else all ways tell it the way it is because people will respect it, just because others tell you you can't do it do it any way they do not live your life. Always give the proper respect until proven wrong and then hold back noting. When we find our self alone we really arn't it's life giving us a breather until the next chapter starts. So little missy keep your standards you have tried to live by no matter what others say or do and trust your gut it's you taking your back. never except any less than you give and require it from any body that you allow in front of you. But your never alone and always loved. So enjoy your breather before the next chapter starts. oh yeah I met my second wife when I hurt her feelings she was upset but got over it and now there is respect for each other.

I think grief and loss hit everyone differently.  Mine hit me hard for a little bit but I moved through the stages pretty quickly.  I'm thinking it is because the marriage was bad for so long that I had already been grieving the loss and that is why I was so depressed for so long.

Hang in there and take as long as you need to get through this.  ((Hugs))

I think a broken heart is a broken heart and the quality and quantity of pain and suffering depends on so many factors that you personally experience during your life that it is hard to say for sure.

My bet is that since you have nothing to compare it tooyou are questioning its severity as it stacks up against others which is completely normal.   

It's important to note that the healing process basics are the same whether you're 18 or 80, had many or one broken heart.     You bleed and cry and mourn them all.

Good question to ponder.   Thanks for the post.

He was a big part of your life. You become one and now it is you alone. 

I on the other hand was thinking how many boyfriends broke my heart. Not intentionally but it still hurt.
 
I was dating a guy in college. The love of my life.  Unfortuanately he was a drunk.  Educated, an engineer. Very caring and loving. When he was good he was good, but when he was drunk the mean guy came out.  I was fortunate enough to break it off before it got physical.  It would have...

I dated others and for one reason or another it did not work out......it wasn't meant to be.

In my case I broke it off and then finally met what I thought was the love I was suppose to have. Married him, three kids later I find myself on D360 telling a bunch of strangers my problems and looking for answers.....

I think what you are going thru is quite normal.  Give yourself all the time that you need.