Amicable ... but ANGRY

We are proceeding amicably enough ... but the deep betrayal-born hurt and anger I'm feeling toward my STBX for her not loving me and for the subsequent break-up of our nuclear family is, at this moment, terribly intense. She was away for a few days and I was so at peace in my home with the kids ... a glimpse, I hope, of more times to come when I'm not trapped in a loveless marriage. But there are times, like tonight, when the grief just guts me. I'm in counseling, I've got wonderful supports ... but some minutes/hours feel so isolating. I dread telling our kids, but, at the same time, I want to be able to somewhat grieve openly with them instead of keeping the facade up. I'm going to really ramble if I keep typing ... but I thank you for reading/listening and welcome your constructive encouragement.

by genxm5 14 Posts
Posted on 5/18/2009 8:51 PM

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Its now 2 years for me since he broke up with me. We shared no children but 10 years married. It stung but I only had myself to sort out. You will come through it because we do. You will find your calm but it may take a while. Only look to see yourself through the day, just one day at a time.

If you're offered support with family and friends, if you can, take it. You would do the same and they are happy to help. Even to just to be reassuringly around you.

Good luck my friend x

by Jasmine28 5 Posts
Posted on 5/19/2009 8:57 AM

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Ramble on- that is what we are here for..we have all been thru it and are here for you! What you are feeling is totally normal...it will get easier! Vent ANYTIME you want!

by mtnvly 3539 Posts
Posted on 5/19/2009 8:41 AM

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One more thing. (((hugs)))

by bluebird 1157 Posts
Posted on 5/18/2009 9:37 PM

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I'm having a rough night too. I feel so angry, and, as you put it, betrayed. He cheated. How could he have done that to me?

I try to have nice positive answers but tonight I'm out of those. I'll just say I feel the same way. Usually when I feel like this I come here to vent or just sit and cry. I'm doing both tonight.

Honestly, I'm doing all of the right things too. I think, though, that you have to let the feelings come. I know there are a lot of times I can't express them, but when I'm alone I do. It seems to work better for me when I have a good long cry like tonight. It sort of clears out the cobwebs and is cleansing for me. I have no idea how others feel, but I'd go ahead and cry and let the kids know that it hurts. Otherwise they might end up with the idea that divorce is no big deal.

by bluebird 1157 Posts
Posted on 5/18/2009 9:37 PM

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