Stages of Divorce.

Oh,ma'am,I have that desire so much and yes I know it is wrong for many reasons.It is hard to fight that impulse.
My first divorce was 26 years ago.I too care for my ex and I am genuinely concerned for her well being but that's the extent of it.I did bend over backward to try to be a friend to show I have no anomosity towards her but she just rejects it.Now I don't try.Time does indeed lessen the urgency.

nice comments, this helped me too! I am feeling the same way. I am moving on so much but I still have mixed feelings about the whole thing. My sister keeps telling me "its too soon, you need to give it some time", deep down I know she is right. I don't think I will ever stop caring for him, as I do have children with him too, I think a part of me will always think of him as family, just distant family is all. I think he thinks of me the same. I do feel that at some point in our lives we will become better friends, I just need time.

You haven't been divorced that long and it will take time for those feelings for your ex to lessen. I filed in May of 06 and I still have some  concern for my ex. He's the father of my daughter.

I have way to much to take care of to worry about finding someone else right now. But I do understand what you are wanting. Get involved in hobbies and projects you never could before the divorce. I think it would be much easier to date someone interested in your hobbies and interests than a total stranger.  Less scary

I wasn't looking for a husband when this last one found me. It will happen when you are meant to find that special person. For now work on yourself to be the best that you can be. Get out there and enjoy yourself with the friends you have and you will find someone when you are ready.

All normal feelings and fears. Dating too soon can raise those disappointed feelings of getting out there again, but at least you have a better of understanding of what you want and need I'm sure. That dreaded word, time, it's different for each of us. 3 months of being divorced is not a long time, the period of separation you were still married, so yes feelings change, but caring doesn't just stop. I have been divorced from my 1st. for 9 years, and though I don't love him, I do care, always will to some degree. Focus on you for now, the time will come you will be okay with being "out there again"...