Is there something wrong with me?

Thank you all for your responses.  I greatly appreciate all of the different viewpoints on this.  I guess it is just a waiting game until I feel comfortable to let someone else into my life.  Perhaps I never will, but that is a risk I have to take.  I have always been reluctant to let someone in that deeply, and I am sure after everything that has happened, I have a nice HUGE wall built around myself right now.  I guess it just takes time to disassemble it one brick at a time.

Everyone responds to divorce differently so those you know who are dating are not really a bench mark. Their situations may had been different then yours and you just need more time.

As to the way you feel. I think it's normal for the most part. I have felt the same way at times and it's okay. Maybe right now, you need time for you and your life. Maybe it's just not time for someone to come into your life right now. Healing takes time.

Oh Redwillow thank you! You have just extended my time to 2 1/2 years. I am feeling much better already...lol...sounds about perfect to me!

Kidding aside, I don't think there can be a "time limit". I think your heart and mind will come to a consensus and inform you that you are ready. Or like Melanie said it will just happen. If you put a time limit on it then you may miss a moment while you are waiting for your time to pass.

I have seen a recipe for the length of time to wait to date as one year for every five you were married.
Thoughts?

IceWolfe:  You are completely normal.  Everyone goes though this at their own pace.  Someday you'll be in the grocery store and someone across the produce section from you will catch your eye and you will know then that you are ready.  Take your time.  Learn to know yourself.  Go out with friends.  Take up a new hobby, work on a Habitat for Humanity Home.   Take some time for you. 
Melaine.

It is completely normal to feel that way.  I have been separated/started divorce process for the last 3 months, and I have no desire to date either, and don't foresee having any desire for quite a while.  Don't want to jump out of the frying pan and into the fire, y'know?  After being burned it makes sense to want to protect yourself, as well as just heal.  I think that when enough time passes and you are complete again you will want to date.  Till then just go easy on yourself and focus on bettering yourself as an individual.  That can only help the situation when you finally do meet someone you are interested in.

Not to worry, your feelings are as they should be right now. Jumping into new relationships too soon can be catastrophic! Of course there is no specific time, as we all are different in our healing process. But when it's right, you will know it, be it next month or even a few years!
Several friends have moved too quickly, they felt they were ready, but in actuality, they were desperate to fill a void in their lives. The relationships did not last, they had not healed from the past and brought too much baggage into the new.
My feelings are this, if you are at peace with the marriage being over, find contentment and happiness within yourself, then, just maybe, you are ready to consider another relationship. It won't be from seeking it, it will just happen...

Oh wow. I feel the exact same way.

Someone told me that I should wait a year from my Divorce Date to date again. I am almost 1/2 way there and I have no interest AT ALL in dating! I am dreading hitting that 1 year mark.

With me I know it is a 85% fear of being hurt again and a 15% fear of being with someone else. I was with him since 15 so I do not have much experience in dating or "other matters".

My IC says it will pass and when the time is right I will start opening up to it. We'll see.

IceWolfe this is common especially if your stbx cheated on you. Once my divorce was finalized I started to feel normal again.
Not always a good thing to jump straight into a relationship during a painful divorce.
Time will heal the wounds and you will soon be back in the frey.

i think what you are feeling is 100% normal and its your friends who started dating within months, and your stbx, that are the odd ones.

why would it be odd to be so hurt by a divorce?  in my opinion it would be very odd NOT to be hurt by a divorce.

unless you both married just sort of liking each other....not in love and promising to spend your lives together.  this isn't dating...this is marriage.

read some of the other posts...and there's one just posted today too...about this same topic.  many people who want to grieve the marriage and mourn the divorce...and then enter into the next relationship in a healthy mindset wait years before dating again.

if not, you risk making the same mistakes again.  right?