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What do you do when your spouse talks your EAR off?! It is annoying and irritating and at times, doesn't matter WHAT I'm doing he still continues to blabber away. About nothing, about everything. I get involved to help the conversation come to an end but then its on and on about something else. Of course I already feel like I don't want to be around him and constantly finding ways to escape being near by but he's nosey, talkative, and too involved with negative discussions. I'm trying to shed as much negativity as I can in my life but he's starting to feel like such a weight on my shoulders. I've tried politely asking him to wait until I'm done reading or whatever but even that doesn't go over well and is the cause for MORE talking. He needs a friend! He needs SOMEONE else to talk to. We have gone back and forth about this throughout our relationship but with all this tension and stress....I have a hard time being his mom, counselor, friend, and wife all in one.
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Even if he DID find all of this somehow. Its nothing he hasn't heard before or doesn't already know or suspect. Mostly I am hear to talk/sort out my feelings and the events so I can figure out if us splitting up is, in fact, the thing that needs to be done at this point.
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Posted on 1/14/2008 9:41 AM
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Yes, just as I thought: "You are a 'smart cookie' by not leaving any crumbs behind..."
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Posted on 1/14/2008 6:31 AM
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No, of course he doesn't know. I clear the history out when getting off and he would have no reason to look for it at this time. I am doing other things while on the computer so there is no reason to think otherwise.
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Posted on 1/13/2008 10:37 PM
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Just curious about something: Is your spouse aware of your posts to this site? Does he have access to the desktop so that he can look up the history of your PC usage on the Internet? Of course, you are probably way ahead of me on this but I was just curious.
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Posted on 1/13/2008 10:29 PM
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Yes, I am at least on that track, bp. I'm in the process of getting a new job that will help myself, my future, as well as providing better financial status for being on my own. I also have my mom and brother near by that both sort-of know what I am going through and offering support. I also have started sweeping up small bits of money into an account that my mom has set up for my son's saving future. I'm mostly trying to ride this out as long as possible so I can get through training of my new job and into making commissions. As well as our lease not being up until end of May and either way someone has to be here. My mom lives across town and since we only have one car it is just a better situation to be here....for now. Until another talk or blow-out...I am reading my "assignment" book for him...a book on rescuing relationships. We'll see how that goes I guess.
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Yes, you are up against the wall on this and need to figure out your next series of steps. Are you able to look towards family members for any kind of support structure in what is ahead for you and child? Mind you, I am not promoting that you turn away from your spouse. What I am promoting is that you turn more towards yourself so that you can move forward with the next series of steps that are properly in place to lessen the impact on you and your child. Your spouse is an adult that will need to sort through his own course; and, since you are the one that is being pressured to take some kind of reprieve, you need to put together your action plan.
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Posted on 1/13/2008 10:15 PM