Living with someone before divorce is final

I have done extensive research on this because my ex has also acquired a boyfriend and has already had his child (we've been separated 10 months do the math) In most Temp Orders there is a stipulation that prevents anyone your romantically involved with to not be in the home overnight when the children are present. This is important: Its there to protect the children not to disrupt your love life. Of course you can date but just do it discreetly. The romance is for your enjoyment not your children's so they should be kept out of the loop as much as possible. New men or women in their lives, particularly during a divorce, is confusing for them. My own children are confused so I dont date right now because they live with me. Let them have some time to adjust to the current situation before introducing them to new ones.

This is always frowned upon in any court especially when minor children are involved. I can tell you from experience that right here in my state ...NY i was given supervised visitation because of my boyfriend while the case was going on. Not because he was a bad man or did anything wrong or had ever been in trouble or even because he came along before the divorce was filed cuz he didn't...but because judges don't think the extra burden on the children is healthy and dating while married is very frowned on. It makes you look like an irresponsible parent that doesn't display good judgment not to mention causes the children undue distress if the other parent is angry about it. in the courts eyes it lends creedance that the divorce is only happening because of outside influences that he probably invited. I think your own common sense is telling you that this is a married man still, he took a vow and though they are seperate its not over until the papers are signed and anything can happen. You should not be involved with his children until after this is over and maybe not even then for a little while until they have some time to adjust. If it were me i'd never want the thought in the back of a childs mind that I wrecked a marriage even if I didn't come into play until after the divorce has started. You'll have enough trouble getting along with the ex and the kids down the line without adding this. I say wait. If he wants you he will when its over and you'll both be better off. Why start off living together already worried about an up and coming ex this isn't good for your own relationship.

I am in the state of Georgia, and I thought there was something called cohabitation which is frowned upon by the courts. I think it is misleading to thin k that the judge will not look upon this negatively. All the advise I have received is to be married or at least have firm wedding plans that you can tell the judge about. God luck!!

It's not against the rules, but I was advised by a friend/attorney not to do it. He told me not to even DATE... which I did, and I am living with my boyfriend and my divorce isn't final (although it's been a 2yr on going battle). Do you know if HIS ex is doing the same?

No, there isnt a law against that but are you ready for this?? You may be in for a roller coaster ride, especially if she is vendictive. That wont change though whether he is divorced or not. The law wont keep him from his kids unless they are in danger, whether he is living with a woman or not. That makes no difference. She may threaten but the law is the law. Good luck. You may want to consult with an attorney or Legal Aide.

depends on the laws in your state....you should consult with a lawyer just to make sure that this isn't an issue....but i don't think it is.