I did it!!!

Emotions are always relative to our expectations and our environment. When you've been laboring in a crumbling marriage, the stress, anxiety and pressure is deadly. The minute you take action -- in this case giving voice to your needs and separating -- there's instant relief. It's got to feel amazing! As RB stated, you'll feel everything in time. But for the moment, celebrate yourself for taking care of yourself. And remember, everybody's divorce experience is uniquely there. Maybe you never feel bad about it. That doesn't make you a bad or dysfunctional person. It means you did the right thing, and you're a lot better off for having faced the music honestly and with dignity. You go, girl!

That's normal for some people. Sometimes the stress of holding it in is just so much. Then there's the stress of "What's he going to do when I tell him?" It's just such a relief to have it over. You probably will fee other things, maybe regret, maybe melancholy, It'll just take time. It's kind of like a car accident. At first you're just happy to be alive. Sometimes it's not till days later your going, "Hey, that hurts!" Just relax, and ease into the change. Remember, if you need to talk, there's a bunch of us out here.