I can't decide

My husband and I have been married for 3 years but have dated off and on for the past 15 years. We have 3 beautiful children together. Since we have been married there have been a lot of complications and situations that has made me want a divorce (drug abuse, physical abuse,jail).I know I'm stupid for staying,but I thought I was doing it for my kids i wanted them to have their father. But I've realized that they are not happy because I'm not happy and I'm not happy because our marriage is broken. He was recently diagnosed with multiple sclerois and that has made my decision harder. We've been through counseling (he didn't like it but we only went once). So I guess my question is How do you divorce someone and they have a diesese like this? I know it's time for me to pack my bags to be honest I should have ended this 2years ago. Am I wrong for wanting out?

by tasha 5 Posts
Posted on 1/9/2008 3:17 PM

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Never stay out of guilt. That will only make you resent him more, and do you want your kids to see that? No, Cindy and Bea4 are right: If it's time to leave, then leave. Do it for you, your kids, and even your husband. He deserves to be happy too, and living with a miserable spouse won't make him happy.

by Robert-Boyd 3885 Posts
Posted on 1/9/2008 6:46 PM

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I know this is a tough decision but do not feel guilted into staying with him. You need to get the kids into a better situation. They need to see mommy and daddy both happy so they can feel secure and happy. Cindy gave good advice so be careful and keep us posted. Good Luck

by Bea4 406 Posts
Posted on 1/9/2008 3:49 PM

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Thank you that helped clear things up a bit. Maybe I need to specify he was abusive in the past Not now. but that really doesn't make a diffrence. I have to start planning my exit.

by tasha 5 Posts
Posted on 1/9/2008 3:32 PM

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read this: http://www.divorce360.com/articles/171/why-do-people-decide-to-leave.aspx

by cindy 79 Posts
Posted on 1/9/2008 3:24 PM

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if he is abusive you are not wrong at all. you should call the abuse help line number. see that information center box on the right...click the abuse help link and call them today please. you need to learn more about abuse.

by cindy 79 Posts
Posted on 1/9/2008 3:23 PM

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