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MY EX HUSBAND WANTS ME TO STOP COURT PROCEDINGS

Well today i got a phone call from my ex. He was pretty upset because he got a letter from my attorney asking for a copy of his taxes. He had to give me half of his return for medical bills. Now he wants me to call my attorney off and tell her that we are in agreement to stop everything... I told him that i am not because i have 7000.00 in attorney fees. well he said that i am responsible for mine and he is responsible for his..But he took me to court and lost..My attorney said that he is responsible for part of the fees.So he was screaming at me and telling me that this was all my fault.. He said that he took me to court because i was not letting him see the kids..(LIE). My ex is a big liar and keeps trying to blame everything on me..Well now he is trying to make me feel sorry for him,but i wont let it happen.. He yells at me like we are still married and thats what makes me soo mad.. I am sure he does not yell at his wife because she wears the pants in the house.. LOL.. I just want him to leave me alone and pay what he has to pay.. Thats all.. I will not let him bully me any more.. He is a selfish man with his money..I just needed to vent and get this out of my system once and for all.. I will show him that he cant push me around anymore..%0d%0a%0d%0athanks for listening%0d%0a%0d%0a%0d%0acherbear

by cherbear 5182 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 6:50 PM

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HANG UP. Explain to him the "rules" rudeness, yelling, name calling = hanging up the phone. If he can't control your emotions you are going to shut down completely.

Good for you. Do NOT put up with his abuse. All it took was for one time to put Mr. B in his place. That was the end of the abuse. Never again. I think he is afraid.

by vlady 2123 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2009 9:56 AM

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hmmmmmm cher I just want to say it's nice to see you have stood up and dusted your self off. I would also let him know that if he keeps calling and has to yell or not treat you better that you will get him on harassment and make him go through your lawyer to ask questions. This way it make him relize that you don't owe him anything and he can be civil. You little missy are starting to see the light and it makes me proud. If they can't approach you with respect as a person not an X then he don't approach you any more. Some one talking down to you is not acceptable from any one. I hope you take this new found respect of freedom and apply it to other relationships in the future. It stands to reason when he can't use you anymore as an anger release he will have to deal with him self. I wish you the best.

by Gomezz 732 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2009 9:45 AM

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It's not necessarily a matter of "sticking it to him", I understand to well that it does take two to make it work. From your description, you are on the right course and dealing with a juvenile mentality, perhaps you should take that into consideration when he has a tantrum and not let it get to you to much. Just remember right now you have the last laugh, as he is stuck in a skirt at the moment. By the way, is he the Butch? or the...

by pen75 29 Posts
Posted on 3/30/2009 9:32 AM

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Keep your strength up and remember to tell him you're not his doormat anymore. A new sherrif's in town and he has to play by new rules.

by Trece 10 Posts
Posted on 3/28/2009 1:25 AM

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Good job Cher, stick it to him!

by Lostway 360 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 11:28 PM

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Cher, he's an asshole. Put the screws to him.

by 2much42long 3031 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 9:45 PM

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YOU GO GIRL! WOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by Dactyl 2606 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 9:22 PM

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Couldn't have said it better, Spaz! I might have told him..."Please hold for Click." CLICK. But yeah, that is the nice thing about the phone...voice volume goes up, you tell him you won't tolerate him yelling and that you're hanging up now...you have an attorney, go through him, but I'm not talking to you anymore...CLICK.

*hugs ya* I'm sorry you had a rough day today. But I'm also very proud of you for standing your ground with him and for not taking his shit! ***raises a glass**** Cheers Cher!

by BlueB 2982 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 7:53 PM

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greatdad, thanks and i am trying very hard not to take his BS.. he tries to bully me. well not now..

trisha, thanks and you are right too. i wanted to hang up on him but i just let him rattle on about nothing.. lol

by cherbear 5182 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 7:30 PM

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Cher-

Glad to see that you arn't taking any more BS from him. Stick to your guns and let him pay what he owes you.

by Greatdad 555 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 7:22 PM

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I'm so proud of you. Yes, hang up like spaz suggested. Then he can scream into voice mail. Tell him to go scream at the attys. They definitely know how to handle him.

You know you are right. Don't let him do this to you. You started it now finish it. Apparently you are hitting him in his wallet. I bet he won't do this again.

by trisha9054 4967 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 7:14 PM

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Spaz, you are right. He just does not know how to shut his mouth.. I will not back down with this because then he wins.. Not with my 7000.00. no way...

thanks spaz

by cherbear 5182 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 7:09 PM

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Thanks Departed,
I really just want all this over with.. I want to live my life like i should.. I am not going to feel sorry for him either.. Thanks for the comment..

by cherbear 5182 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 7:07 PM

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You know the cool thing about a phone? They hang up AND they have voicemail. I know I know - cool huh? The second a voice gets mean or loud on the other end - CLICK. Don't even put up with a second of his abusive bs anymore.

Let him leave 10 messages in a row - better for you - it's called harassment.

Gotta love when they figure out their ass is grass....

by spaznskitz 7745 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 7:06 PM

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YOU GO GIRL..............My words to him would have been hahaha, your kidding right fuc??? What a jerk, you should be all smiles and dancing two steps in the living room, he can't win, he can't get out of this and now as they say, he made his bed now he can lay in those dirty, wrinkled sheets... He took you to court he lost and now he wants you to feel sorry for him, okay what time does the pitty party for the ex start, I will be there and I'm bringing the wine..... You stood your ground, sounds as if you wear some pretty big girl pants now, so KUDOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by Departed 571 Posts
Posted on 3/19/2009 6:59 PM

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