parenting after divorce

the divorce was finalized recently, which started the court ordered parenting plan for my son to alternate weeks, whereas before he alternated every few days. i've seen some changes in personality/behaviors (some good, some concerning). he refuses to discuss any activities that occur at the ex's; I know he is going through is own emotional adjusment, re:loyalty and uncertainty. Do children experience as sort of detachment period from one parent or the other during this time, and how can I help him get through it?

by darnold 2 Posts
Posted on 3/18/2009 12:15 PM

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There are some good sites to help. I read somewhere that even after a weekend of being with the non custodial parent there is some adjusting to do - and the custodial parent needs to know this and let them have some space when they come home.
Give your kids time to adjust but be documenting the changes you see. Try not to be worried about what they are doing with your ex- but concern your self with what is going on in their lives.
Parenting will take on a whole new aspect for you now. I have always said it is such a joke. We divorce that person for whatever reason and now we have to communicate with them about the kids....arghhh

by mtnvly 3539 Posts
Posted on 3/18/2009 3:13 PM

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Hi.......Just happened to catch your post. I'm not sure how old your son is, but I have been doing the shared custody thing since my kids were 1 &3, and they are now 11 &13. I found that there is a lot of adjusting, and it does get better, but never goes away completely. "Switch Day" has always been challenging because they have to adjust to going into a completely different environment and they do feel guilty and so on. My kids struggled so much that I developed a tool that is now a published book that may help if your son is under age 10. If you'd like, check it out at www.werehavingatuesday.com. There are lots of tips and articles about this subject I have also written. The book is We're Having A Tuesday. Just hang in there............it does get better.

by DK-Simoneau 189 Posts
Posted on 3/18/2009 12:21 PM

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