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cheating spouse is professor in dept where I am student - I can't take her flaunting her boyfriend

Hi everyone,%0d%0aThis is my first post, so sorry if it rambles - I am a basket case these days. My wife (who filed for divorce) is a professor at the business school where I am getting my MBA. She has been seeing someone else (an employee of the University) for several months prior to our separation. As soon as we separated she put his pictures on the outside of her office door, began walking all through the school with him and flaunting their relationship in her office suite (with my professors) and in the school, with my peers. All of this caused me to break down (I have a legal mental disability recognized by the school) and I have had to drop out of school because I couldn't be there with the way she was brazenly seeing him while her husband (me) was in the building as well. Without my degree I can't do anything to support myself - I have no income, no assets and nowhere to live and no car. I am literally devastated. Both cars were in her name and she took them and traded them in on a new audi last week, even though I had asked in email if I could keep my car if I made the payments. She lied and said the car was gone, that she had gotten rid of it. So I have been renting cars since December when I was thrown out so that I can see my son (from a previous marriage) who lives 150 miles away. She is doing whatever she wants and I feel like I can't pursue my life, finish school and try to move on. I have talked to the dean and her boss, but they don't care about her behavior or my situation. Does anyone have any advice or any way I can get what I need and move through this? I am having a terrible time with all of this and just can't stop being so angry and hurt and feel like I just have to take everything. Thank you so much.

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Posted on 3/15/2009 6:09 PM
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for the moral support you are in great need of
by spaznskitz   7745 Posts
Posted on 3/15/2009 7:17 PM
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In that you aren't working and she is - apply for legal aid at the court house and file for temporary spousal support. (unless you can afford the retainer for an attorney, which all things considered would be better - even if you put it on a credit card)

Unless she has a court order giving her exclusive use of the marital home, you have a legal right to be there. Move back in and stay planted until she helps you with other arrangments or a judge makes you leave. If the two of you owned a home together, you are entitled to half of the equity.
As far as the car, if you can prove that you paid for the upkeep and the maintenance of one of the vehicles and she up and sold it out from under you (regardless of who's name is on it) to "screw you over" - you can, legally, be entitled to an amount of money equal to what the value of the car is.

 

You live in basically, a no fault divorce state - her infidelity isn't a factor, so there is nothing you can do about it. I'm sorry for your situation but as far as her flaunting, it would probably be best if you found a different school.

Do you have anyone anywhere else you could go live with for a while? Friend, family? Now is not the time to be embarassed about asking for help (housing and money) from anyone and everyone you know - you have to be able to fight for what you are legally entitled to.

Stat interiewng attorneys, see if anyone will work with you on the retainer, or if you can't afford it, like I said, go to legal aid and apply.

by spaznskitz   7745 Posts
Posted on 3/15/2009 7:15 PM
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