Sinking fast...

I'm officially drowning now.... served divorce papers 5 mos ago. Got a temp visitation order in place 4 months ago, but it was retracted a month later!. New hearing for the same thing again set for next week with a new judge presiding. I just got the latest accounting from my counsel... I'm already $11k in the hole ... AND NOTHING HAS BEEN ACCOMPLISHED YET! No divorce yet. No parenting plan agreed to yet. No visitation plan in place yet. STBX wont consider mediation, keeps refusing it. STBX / opposing counsel keeps postponing his deposition (his counsel is always "unavailable" but no alternate dates are given!). I just filed my taxes, will have to turn over entire refund to counsel and then I think he's still going to drop me. He knows I'm tapped out financially, I'm now officially living well under paycheck to paycheck with bills overflowing and still trying to keep a roof over our heads (me & child). STBX's plan is to drive me into poverty, force me to lose home and everything elseso I can (as he tells family members) "move back home and we can be a family again". In other words, (what's he's really saying to me) "Who are YOU to leave me? You'll leave when I say you can leave and I'll find you no matter where you go"    What happens if this 2nd attny drops me because they know I can't afford what they are now calling a "highly litigious case". I've mentioned other counsel is VERY hostile towards me for some reason (not sure if it's all show for STBX's benefit or not??? ) and I believe it's not just the STBX that's trying to play hardball. I think other attny sees a nice sucker/ cashcow and is taking it for what it's worth, no matter the outcome. I cant afford to do anymore filings and court dates ... especially when nothing is getting resolved. What are my options here? I've tried legal aid, they told me I didnt qualify. We did previously  file the motion to have STBX cover legal fees, but I'm being told that this may not come thru either...  even though he is the one needlessly dragging this thru the court. I'm also being told that standing up in court against his attny woudl not be a smart idea... but I'm broke! No credit, can't get a loan, already asked friends / famiily for original retainer so no help there either... etc etc etc... Any ideas?? Anyone "been there and done that" and would be able to provide some pointers or insight??