What do you do....

Thanks jordan...  I'm usually not very open with personal things, at least with people I'm not close to.  over the last couple of years, everyone I trusted,  was there for, helped out when they wanted/needed something, have turend away from me.  Makes it even harder to discuss "my feelings" ...

i couldnt tell ya still falling myself

Grab on to that rope, tie another knot and hold on! It feels that way for a bit, but you will begin to climb up again. You may find that reading other blogs and comments, and posting yours and questions will help. There are many of us here that are going through or been through what you are dealing with now. There is much support here, we hurt with you, cry with you, and laugh with you, so many emotions but you are not alone... Take care, K

the most critical piece of advice I was ever given was to focus just on what I could control and nothing else.   This meant that I couldn't change the past (not my divorce, my marriage, what my ex did to me, how my parents raised me, what happened to me growing up, etc. ) so the past should not be a focus for me.    What I could control is how I spent my time, so I concentrated on working on work that brought me joy, exercising that brought me strength, volunteering that enriched my soul, spending quality time with my daughter that fed my need to be a good Mom, spending my money on things that brought me comfort, etc.   

In other words you shift your view from agonzing and feeling helpless to a view of feeling empowered, comforted and fed.   I learned to filter out the negative by actively practicing to focus ONLY on those things that I could control and on those people that supported a great self image of me.   People who reflected back to me that I was of value, I was important to them and I had something to offer.    I removed myself from any and all situations that did not support the image and life I was contructing for myself.   

You do this with therepy, support groups, faith, volunteer work, sites like this, good friends, family.....wherever you get support, guidence (even if you don't always recognize it), challenge and opportunity to grow and actively build you and your life into your dream you and life.    You take baby steps and you enlist the help of others.    That's how you dig yourself out of whole.

Look farther down and you may see me! I have no answers and it's been almost a year. Everything seems to be falling apart bit by bit. I guess it might help to know you're not alone.

All you can do is stay focused on looking up.Seriously though,it's a day by day thing and one piece of advice I was given was to get some counseling.I listened to them and they were right.Also,keep posting your thoughts and feelings here and you will feel like you have a support group who knows exactly how you feel. I'm so very sorry you are so down.Anytime you need to talk I will be willing to listen and help if possible k.......[[[[[[[[[hugs]]]]]]]]