Jesus and Divorce

I didn't find this earlier.Still trying to navigate this site.I have wrestled with this very fact since filing for divorce.I am a person of faith which took my life time to cultivate and develop.I rebeled much in my young life.I was in a Catholic elementary school and the a Catholic high school.Enlisting in the Marine Corps and going to Viet Nam,destroyed most of that.
Needless to say through many events in life I certainly became close to the Lord.
Now to have the realization of stay married and die,or divorce and live was something I could not justify.My/our psychaiatrist,is also a spiritual counselor,told me  divoprce is to be granted under Abuse,Abandonment,Adultery,Addiction.
I still could not justify it,so he said research the Pauline Doctrine by St.Paul.
After researching the Pauline Doctrine I can live with my decision to divorce.The doctor explained that after 28 sessions it was very clear she had abandoned the marriage,she had abused  me(punching me in the face,cutting my chest and arms with a knife).
I have come to peace over my spiritual decision.

Well, first off, Angielou, I don't believe that God is a zapper.  He sent Christ to atone for our sins, not to punish us for them.  None of us can lead sinless lives.  That's what grace is all about.  What a blessing.

Comeagain, I think honesty is always the best way.  You have no shame in what has happened in your marriage.  I'm sure you were as surprised as anyone when your wife left, and with whom.  If some people can't handle that truth, then they have a problem, not you.  Just keep being who you are, and stay faithful to yourself.  I wouldn't say anything to the kids, but if the parents ask, be honest.

I have been having difficulty with this also.  We had a discussion about this in bible study....3/5 of us are divorced or stb....When Jesus spoke of remarriage of a divorced woman as adultery, he was talking to the pharisees.  They were trying to trick him and he was merely stating Jewish law at the time.  Matthew 19:1-9 tells us that a man who divorces his wife to marry another, HE is the one who is unfaithful and he shouldn't have been married in the first place.

I am not the one who broke my wedding vows.  I was a good wife, mother and helpmate.  I firmly believe the Lord would not punish me for my husband's sin.  I can't believe that a loving God would want me to be alone the rest of my life because of another's sin and unfaithfulness.

ok I've got 2 questions. One minor and the other a more difficult one.
 First...does anyone know how to change the e-mail registered to an account for this site? I'm getting ready to change mine and haven't seen how to accomplish that...
Second... Since this is going to the church section I need some advice.I've been doing some thinking and not sure what to tell people and how to judge what's appropiate to tell. Here's the story (I'll try to be brief)...
My then wife left about 2and a half years ago. I didn't find out until 6 months later she not only left the state but left to be with a woman.  At the time we had a dance studio and over and over people would tell me how we were like a mom and dad to their kids. The woman she left with is a guest teacher we had at the studio just before she closed it and split town. A # of kids & parents have figured out that she's iving on the other side of the country.All I've acknowledged to them (who I still see on a weekly basis) is that we're no longer together. She still has some contact with the kids....I know that's a lot of stuff but here's the question...
Going forward what do I say to the kids (or more likely their parents) when they start putting things together? Do I continue to try and avoid the truth or acknowledge what's going on and let people think what they want? It may sound stange but I'm not even sure I care that much about the lesbian aspect of this. But I know it's a big deal to some parents  As someone that tries to walk a life of faith (even though I don't always do a good job of it) I'm hurt more by the way she walked away from the people that counted on us.  I really just want to do the right thing....sorry agian for the length of this thing....

ok I've got 2 questions. One minor and the other a more difficult one.
 First...does anyone know how to change the e-mail registered to an account for this site? I'm getting ready to change mine and haven't seen how to accomplish that...
Second... Since this is going to the church section I need some advice.I've been doing some thinking and not sure what to tell people and how to judge what's appropiate to tell. Here's the story (I'll try to be brief)...
My then wife left about 2and a half years ago. I didn't find out until 6 months later she not only left the state but left to be with a woman.  At the time we had a dance studio and over and over people would tell me how we were like a mom and dad to their kids. The woman she left with is a guest teacher we had at the studio just before she closed it and split town. A # of kids & parents have figured out that she's iving on the other side of the country.All I've acknowledged to them (who I still see on a weekly basis) is that we're no longer together. She still has some contact with the kids....I know that's a lot of stuff but here's the question...
Going forward what do I say to the kids (or more likely their parents) when they start putting things together? Do I continue to try and avoid the truth or acknowledge what's going on and let people think what they want? It may sound stange but I'm not even sure I care that much about the lesbian aspect of this. But I know it's a big deal to some parents  As someone that tries to walk a life of faith (even though I don't always do a good job of it) I'm hurt more by the way she walked away from the people that counted on us.  I really just want to do the right thing....sorry agian for the length of this thing....

As a Chritan there are no rules.  Well there is one and it so simple that they make school to try to teach it.

A great book to read on this subject is "Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage in the Bible," by Jay E. Adams. It helped me so much.

Wow, just yesterday I had wrote a blog on myspace about this! I was questioning that because my stbx wanted a divorce and I did not, was I doomed to be alone and not remarry because of these beliefs? My first marriage ended because of his infidelity, and I felt that it was okay for me to marry again, because that was acceptable! Thanks for enlightening me on this...

i have struggled with that concept myself although i have never heard it interpreted that way. i don't want  this divorce but the idea of  deserting my vows even though he walked out to be with his mistress has been bothering me. thanks