Why is he still in my life????????????????

thanks everyone for your great comments. i was really down yesterday, and i still am down. but i know that there is something better out there for me.  thanks for helping me out

Have you considered therepy?  The reason I ask is that you a person can't see his options (there are always options and choices) and feels trapped by another person, it generally takes some therepy to get to the root of the desperation.   It might help to talk to someone about your feelings and learn some tools to deal with your situation. 

It is your right to be happy and you can make it happen and move forward with your life but you need to choose to take action and find out what is blocking you from dealing with your ex.

Don't give up!!!  That would not make the situation any easier!  Might I recommend taking self-defense classes??  It not only teaches you how defend yourself but helps with your self-esteem, which in turn will give you the strength to stand up to him.

Giving up will ensure that the control he has will continue. As hard as it is, staying strong and keep fighting for yourself is the best way to change things. Don't give up, you have come this far and with the support of others, you can go farther.

That's just the thing, with kids, the ex is always attached.  Kinda like a wart or tumor....

Here's a poem that I think you'll love: "When things go wrong, as they sometimes will, When the road you're trudging seems all uphill, when the funds are low and the debts are high, and you want to smile, but you have to sigh, when care is pressing you down a bit, Rest if you must, but don't you quit. Life is queer with its twists and turns, As everyone of us sometimes learns, And many a failure turns about, when he might have won had he stuck it out; Don't give up though the pace seems slow, You  may succeed with another blow. Success is failure turned inside out, The silver tint of the clouds of doubt, And you never can tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems so far; So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit, It's when things seem worse, that you must not quit."

Don't quit...

giving up cheats yourself and your kids. please don't think like that. and don't give him the satisfaction of having more control over you. you can do this. with kids involved he will be in your life for a long time but you have the power to not let him push your buttons. until then, beat up a pillow or scream in the car-not really productive but you do feel better afterwards--or maybe that is just me!!!!

Don't give up kiddo. You've made it this far. Besides, you have all these folks here pulling for you.

Just don't let him see he is getting to ya.  Life is funny in that you may not like it now, but when it turns, you will appreciate what you have.  Hang in there, you are too positive to get down.  And your avatar radiates light like your personality.  Not sure if that makes sense but hopefully you get the point.