I am a horrible person . . help me

Ok, many of you know I ditched the guy I had been dating because of several ex wife issues he had. I ran into him this morning with his kids at Wal-Mart and I just thought to myself, my god I can't stand this man's kids either. They are 7 and 4. They whined and cried for the 5 minutes I stood there with him talking to him. My 1 year old acts older. When they talked you could not understand what they were saying and sounded like my 1 yr old also. It was so bad, I blurt out, Is something wrong with them? He said that nothing was wrong with them and he understood what they said. I had a girlfriend with me and when we walked away I asked her if I was just retarded or if something was up with those kids. She said that they had no developmental issues because he had them tested and was going to have them in speech therapy. She has run into him a month or so ago and were talking about kids.
I guess I just do not have a lot of tolerance for other people's children. I feel like a terrible person though. I know that I am probably destined to be alone because I need to find someone who has no kids to be with because I have no tolerance. Does this make me a terrible person?

by MNL 104 Posts
Posted on 1/19/2009 3:41 PM

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It is good the relationship didn't carry on and ended. You know what you want and it is not horrible to know this about yourself. When you get involved with someone please take the time to make a list of what are deal breakers for you and what is not. There are many people out there who do not want to work on a relationship with someone else's children, dealing with their ex, etc... In this day and age there is a lot of baggage. Check out how much there is, what you can handle, what you choose to deal with, and see if their bag is packed in a way you would like to take a trip with. The trip of life together.
Good luck in your future endeavors...

by lgoodgal 1036 Posts
Posted on 1/20/2009 2:40 PM

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your not a horrible person. i actually feel the same way you do.

by icanwishonmistar 95 Posts
Posted on 1/19/2009 5:12 PM

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Nah - dont sell yourself short - i suspect if you fell in love with someone, you would accept thier kids too. That said, i think i would try to be a bit more sensitive to others issues - many people have speech problems and that doesnt make them less smart or not great kids, etc. (that said, bad kids are bad kids and i consder myself lucky you arent saddled with that the rest of your life!)

by jackson 723 Posts
Posted on 1/19/2009 4:08 PM

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No, you're not horrible. A little blunt, but hey, we're entitled :)
Good thing you're no longer dating him though, that could have really been ackward.
In a relationship where children are involved, it is just as important to love the kids as much as you do their father.
It's a package deal. And just that much more to love.
It does not mean that you're destined to be alone. Just that you are allowed to be a little more picky.

by Tuff 82 Posts
Posted on 1/19/2009 4:04 PM

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